The usual most likely. Sometimes you must sit on your hands and not type what you really think, tempting though it may be..................:mrgreen:
I think it has a bearing on the consequences. If it had been unprovoked, it would have deserved a longer suspension. Kind of like mitigating circumstances, you know?
. KD? I always thought we were on the "same side". I really don't think I provoked her. I also am not a racist, but I do get worked up when people put down the Jews (in the past) No, I'm not Jewish, (I'm Methodist) but the past posts where I'm considered "racist" is when I have defended the Jewish people. Let's not forget that this person has physically threatened me on a few occasions. How would she feel if someone threatened to physically harm her "granny" or spoke in that way to her mother? What type of example is she setting for her children? I still think she should have handled the situation with the boys differently. I agree with PoohBear who said they would have found the parents. I personally would have called 911. She could have debated the situation without the profanity and threats with civility. People can always agree to disagree, but when violence and ugliness is displayed like she did, I believe she should be was in the wrong. I was honestly stating an opinion that I thought was the reason for these boards.
Sometimes it is best to use the delete key. Write it out, get it out of the system, but then don't post. I have to remind myself of that occasionally.
Exactly! And if you submit by accident, there is always edit. This is not a situation that an immediate response is necessary, if a response is even required.
I'm always civil.................................... All righty then, if you really want to know. I happen to think nsane was well-meaning in her post. Right, wrong or indifferent. Then people have to jump in with all that "woulda, coulda, shoulda" stuff that you always think about doing after the moment of crisis has passed. You weren't there, you don't know her and you don't know what she was thinking any more than I do. How about giving folks the benefit of the doubt instead of thowing wild and crazy theories out there because you've had problems with a particular poster in the past? As I said, I've met nsane, I don't know her very well, but I'm a fairly good judge of character and I highly doubt there was any "hidden" agenda in her post.
I think we do have a lot in common, but in this case, I thought you were pretty hard on nsane. You made a pretty serious accusation against her. You may not have meant it the way it came across, either. Sometimes we misinterpret things because we don't have the benefit of nonverbal cues, like facial expression, tone of voice, body language. I don't know anything about your previous history with her, it must have been before I started on this forum? I've only been around since last summer. If she threatened you in the past, I would not condone that, either. As far as the remarks that are perceived as racist, I have seen some of that myself. You can defend a people without denigrating another people. I consider the word "raghead" to be a racial slur. I just think the better practice is to condemn individuals for bad behavior, and yes, groups of individuals acting in concert, but not a whole race or religion. Getting back to the other situation, maybe she could have handled it differently, maybe it would have been better to follow the kid home and talk to his parents, but she didn't do that. Since there was no contact, she was not required to stop. From her post, it seems to me that she thought about it the rest of the day and really wanted to let the parents know what happened. I'm a Methodist, too - there's another thing we have in common. Maybe we could do lunch sometime and get to know each other IRL.
Fair enough. But you need to look at it through my eyes. I have never met her and have only dealt with her on this board. This is a woman I assume to be 30 years younger than me threatening to "take me out" on more than one more occasion. That to me shows a certain personality trait, and when I combine a personality trait with a post, I come up with my own conclusion. She may be the most wonderful church going Christian in town, who gives to the needy and volunteers with the lepers, but from her posts, I find her to be the opposite. I feel that through reading these posts I can tell what type of person someone is. If for example the post was written by "LJK" "KDsGrandma", "JenniferS", "H6", "ReadyToSeeMyKing" (There are many others as well) I would take the post as a sincere case of compassion and concern, but coming from her, I just didn't "feel it."
