I have a 5 year old little girl who came home from school today and told me that her friend thinks she is pregnant. After gasping , I asked what do you mean. My 5 year old began to tell me that her friend in her class said she is pregnant because her mom lets her have sex and kiss a boys butt. I want to talk to the teacher and bring it to her attention and perhaps the little girls moms attention. But am I blowing it out of proportion? Kids make things up all the time, but not this kind of stuff. How do I go about discussing this? I am still shocked by what I heard and am hoping that someone can tell me what I should do. Thank you
Wow, I just don't know what to say! I don't think that is remotely an appropriate thing for a 5 year old to say. I'm going to have to think about it, but my first impulse would be to possibly mention to the teacher that your child has heard some disturbing things from the other girl and ask if she's overheard anything or has any insight, you don't necessarily have to go into specifics, let the teacher take the lead. I think they are required to intervene if abuse is suspected. It could be just that the child has overheard or seen things that are inappropriate which is almost as bad. :shock:
You have to let them know If there is any possibility of abuse the school has to know and the little girl needs help. She could have seen or heard something she wasn't suppose to. But then again it could be something else. The school should be told. I would have said this on the phone, but the tv was getting louder and I didn't want the grandbabies to go deaf. You reallly have to go to the school. I will go with you tomorrow if you want.
I guess I would fall into the overreact category because I would be going directly to law enforcement. :shock:
TELL SOMEONE! TOMORROW!:shock: If it is nothing, then so be it. That is not appropriate for a 5 yr old. If you cant tell, I will. pm me.
I am going to go and talk to her teacher tomorrow and see what she wants to do. It just seems like something that a 5 year old doesn't just make up. Hopefully the teacher will talk to the other little girls mother. Thank you for all the advice. I am glad that I am not the only one who sees this as a little disturbing. I hope that everything is good at home with my daughters friend, that is my biggest worry.
Well, not to be mean... but I'd discuss with a school counselor/principle/law enforcement office and no one else... to include an internet messageboard, email, private messaging, etc. This kind of thing, if it isn't true, destroys lives... and since I once knew a kid that thought the act of hugging was called "sex" until about the age of 6yo, you can't decode what a kid (or more importantly someone else's kid) might have running through their head. As to who you chose to discuss it with, make it ASAP. If it is true, there is a child needing rescued now.
IF your child's teacher is on the timid side, you may considering requesting a school administrator be present as some teachers may not want to approach the other parent with this information....and may be better coming from a counselor or administrator (as mentioned by Lester) If you do meet alone with your child's teacher do ask her what she plans to do with the information and follow up with her. As a teacher, I once had to report a parent to social services when a child showed me a HUGE bruise on her thigh. The child was blind and could feel the pain and wanted to know if she had a mark. The parent woke the child in the middle of the night angry about something and hit her with a broom handle. Of course the parent was furious (to say the least) when child protective services got involved. I could not believe how many of my colleagues told me I could have saved myself a lot of trouble by not getting involved and making that call. (The parent was found to be a child abuser and removed from the home.)
Contact the school Principal or the Superintendent immediately. Does your school provide a handbook with emergency contact information in order to reach your school's Principal, or Superintendent, even if it is after normal school hours? They would (should) know the proper procedure to follow (administratively and legally) in the event of a potential crime against a minor, and will advise you accordingly. This is no slight against the teacher(s), but this question you pose to the discussion group needs immediate and direct administrative involvement of your school. Administration will (should) make the determination if the teacher, or anyone else, needs to be involved in the matter. Your child may be only five, but please give her confidential and graffic openness to you some credibility. Her comments this evening could turn out to be nothing or a misunderstanding on her part, but having expressed a concern and interest in your child over her statements at this early age could have huge dividends down the road.
thats what I am worried about. What if it is just a huge misunderstanding and the little girl who mentioned this stuff to my daughter was just overhearing a show her parents watch. My reasons for asking the group is because I really feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I do not want this to cause such a comotion that the little girl and the parents lives are turned upside down by something that a child may have overheard or seen on TV. On the flipside, I pray that the little girl is not having this going on in her home. These days you never know.
If this is something the child overheard or saw on TV, then the parent still needs to have an alarm go off over his/her head, as the child should not be exposed to such things. This is an alarm..be it an easy fix due to exposure to something inappropriate that needs to be stopped...or something much more serious, it's obvious something in this child's life is occuring that is not appropriate.
After reading this post I'm scared to death. I have 2 boys. My oldest will be 10 and my youngest will be 8. You know I have NEVER heard the word SEX come out of either one of their mouths. How in the world can a 5 year old know what sex is and that you can get pregnant?! It blows me away!! Someone needs to talk to this little girl with the parent and school personal. All I can say is WOW!!
This is Cheer First of all I would like to thank everyone for their advice. I did go to the school today and they have all the info and are going to handle it from here. They said thank you for bringing it to their attention.
