How Do You Fix A Bully?

Good link. So what I want to ask you now is, what can she do legally?

 

I've had the same problem w/ my 11yo son. He goes to Westview Elementary. I had to write a letter stating that if mom son continued to be harassed( & DO USE this terminology!), then I will request a transfer of schools at the JCPS expense. That is what finally got action. The teacher had already done everything in her power. You have to elevate until you get results. My son was tired of getting bullied. He finally let this kid have it. You remember the scene on a Christmas Story??? that was the jist of it. After months and months of sitting there, he finally had had enough. I made sure that they would NOT get him in trouble due to the fact of what had been documented in the past. This kid has not touched him since. And you're right, the bully's parents could care less. And btw, he lives next door to us!!! Icing on the cake.

Good luck. I know exactly how you feel. My son's grades went from A's & B's to D's & F's during this period of time. Now, we are getting back on track since the bullying fool is content now. From what I hear, bullying is a HUGE problem at the JCPS but they keep it hush-hush. I've talked to many, many parents w/ this problem. My son was being called racial slurs and such. He's Kazah but from Russia. Has an Asian look. The things they are saying are really nasty and I didn't know elemenatry kids behaved this way. What are their parents teaching them??? Got to wonder.

Write me privately if you'd like.

Best wishes,

Stephanie.

 

Communicate with the principal in writing ... certified mail ... return receipt requested. CC a copy of communication to superintendent and/or school board member(s). Follow up any phone calls or in person discussions with a written letter re-stating what you discussed ... what the principal said she would do ... what you are to do AND a date you will be following up with her (again certified, returned receipt). It will be a pain but should get attention AND you will have proof of attempts to see this resolved.

 

I do understand what your saying. Of course my daughter hasn't been hit yet, but I hope she doesn't cause I know she will hit back..(not something I taught her lol). But, she has been taught to defend herself if someone says something to her. She has a another girl in her room that bothers her and talks to her when she is trying to do her work. It has come up several times this yr. Each time I go to the classroom and talk to her teacher..she listens and says well your daughter never says nothing to me about it..I was like cause she says that you don't like tattle Tailing (my daughter is 6)..so she is scared to say something, but I"m not..I was like move this other kid away from mine and go from there. Fine it was done..then come to find out that she moved them back together just a week or so again..and I heard that the problem started up and I asked my Daughter if she went to her teacher and she said yes and she told me that we just have to get along..nope...back to the school and the teacher said they need to learn to get along, I was like some kids just don't get along and you can't force that on them..move them around again like before. It was at the point for my Daughter that she was crying (she isn't a cry baby) that she didn't want to go to school cause of this kid. She is 6 yrs old, this is'n't something she should be saying at this age. I thought I would have a few yrs before I had to deal with "I don't like school, or I dont' want to go". The only reason is this other kid. It's hard to deal with and it's sad for the kids.
Rush

 

No problems yet with my kids (sigh of relief). Not physically any way.
Except for the one time my little one was pushed down the slide on the playground. But I've seen him in action. Once he's at the top he's having too much fun to realize that 15 more have lined up behind him. I kissed his booboos (ego) and he now realizes that every one else wants to have as much fun as he's having too. Simple sharing.

So far my littlest one's bullying comes in verbal fashion from GIRLS! There's one little girl especially, only SIX, that tells him every day that she hates him. I told the teacher and apparently I wasn't the only one because little miss sweet mouth has been moved closer to the teachers desk.

My older one is so tall no one has thought to screw with him yet. ...Looks like his daddy too, a mean little red head. But once the kids figure out he hasn't acquired a 'set', I'm sure they will be all over him. :-(

I married a bully beater. DH was one to always get into trouble for defending the smaller kids. :? ....That must be why DH laughed 'til it hurt when he saw our little one stand up at the mirror in his batman underwear and let out a gravely whisper, "I'm Batman!" :lol:

 

I'm sorry but that sentence made me LOL! :lol: Give those girls about 6 years and see if they hate him then.

 

My kids teacher told me that a lot of time they stick good kids with bad kids to be role model types. :neutral:

And for those about to respond: I'm not saying 'they' are "bad kids" ...It's just too early to be eloquent and I'v not had enough coffee.

I swear. Home schooling is sounding better to me all the time. :-( I even asked my boys what they thought about it. The little one is all for it. He gets to stay home with mommyyyy! :roll: But the older one gets the picture. He knows having lots of friends and school activities is way more fun than mom telling him what to do all day. LOL

Ain't parenting fun?

 

lmao.... Hopefully he'll still be in the EW! GIRLS HAVE COOTIES! stage :lol: I know. Probably not. ... I better keep my mouth shut. He'll probably be our best shot at grandkids (so DH says).

(and nobody try to take me down the 12 yos getting pregnant path either. That's not what I'm talking about)

 

I had a similar problem at another JCPS elementary school, however, I was getting harassing letters from a parent as well. Applied for a transfer and was DENIED!! Good luck.
We are looking in the Charter School for next year.

 

The principal is a black lady by the name of Dee Edmondson.

 

Just out of curiosity, why is important that we know the principal's race?

 

Maybe there's more than one Dee Edmondson....?

 

Because I typed it. DUH
There are several people with the same name, and sometimes I think the race may be the issue. The little boy is black too.
Hmmmmmm.

 

If the principal was white and the other kid white, would you still be saying hmmmmmmmmmm?

 

My children are homeschooled. They have lots of friends and activities. In fact we have to turn away enrichment, field trip, class and other opportunities because there are far to many.

One of my children had a doctor's appointment yesterday for an asthma eval. The doctor started to ask if she had breathing trouble in PE. He stopped himself and said oh ... you don't have PE because you homeschool. I politely corrected him that she does attend a homeschool PE class and is also involved in gymnastics and cheerleading (+ Spanish and other activities). It's such a misconception that homeschoolers are isolate, social misfits. Makes me :lol:

 

You guys read tooo much into somethings and not enough in some.
And actually if I was Black and it was vice versa YEAH

 

What are the odds of two people being a Principal at that school with the same name???

 

So you'd be racist no matter what race you are, is that it?

 

You are STUPID! That's all I have to say to you Clif

 

WOW Clif - what a way to try to get something started:shock: Let's just please try to keep it about the child.