How Do You Fix A Bully?

Thank you! I am NOT Racist by any means! You know NOTHING about me Clif.

 

Well I must be stupid too, because it sure sounded racist.

 

MAybe so! I mentioned the principal was black and it was a big NO NO. There are several people with the same name. I know a Clif and a Hught. Does that mean anything, Go ahead and make an issue out of that too.

 

THANKS !!!

I would like to thank ALL the people who gave me their advise. I am glad MOST of you came to this thread with VALUABLE information. I did ask for advise on "how to stop a bully" not "how can I be judged". Thank you!
And just to state this one FACT that I plan on never having to defend myself again....I AM NOT RACIST.

Once again thanks for the POSITIVE input!

 

If you felt a need to point out their races when it had nothing to do with the issue, it would.

More than one Hught? Look out world! ;-)

 

OK, any input on a bully? If not....SHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

Whatever you do, DO NOT confront the parents. I think that is conflict to start out with.

 

pm'd ya :-D :?:

 

LOL I was just trynna stop it before it started. ....It didn't work.

 

It's ok. Some people look for negative things to make them feel more powered. I was stating a fact that got blew out of proportion. Its not like I lied. I could care less if she is purple. I was simply stating a FACT!

 

This is excellent information about bullies and how to deal with them. I would recommend it for parents, teachers and school administrators:

I would also recommend thinking about one's own attitude before confronting teachers and school administrators about a problem, just to make sure they do not misunderstand what the problem really is. Most of us tend to be at least somewhat ethnocentric; that is, we tend to focus on obvious differences in describing others. You may not be bigoted, but the remark did come across to people who do not know you personally as a racist remark. Let's all try to give one another the benefit of the doubt.

 

So referring to her (if she was white) as a white lady is racist too. WOW!
OH BOY!

 

gasp! her...she... lady.... Now you're just being SEXIST!




JUST KIDDING!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

You will never win this. Did she have brown hair? are you dissing on the blondes? Is she short, are you against tall people.

the list goes on and on....:lol:

 

LOL....I didn't mean to upset anyone. I "should have" thought about it before!

 

My elementary/middle school years was rough. I was picked on, teased and pushed around. When the bell rang, I was afraid to go out into the halls, was afraid to go into the cafeteria or go out for recess where all the kids would be. I was always hiding behind a teacher or an adult figure in order for me to feel safe. This is not a way for ANY child to go to school and feel this way.

My personal opinion, I believe it starts in the home and how they are brought up. You need to sit down with your children and to explain that hurting other children' s feelings is not good Or how would they feel if one of the kids were teasing your child, how would they feel.

Kids need to be aware that there is going to be all kinds of children in the schools, various kinds of handicapp, facial deformities, skinny people, short people, fat people, different colors, etc. We are all god's creation.

if you feel that your school isn't doing anything for you or your child than you need to report it.

If my child was being beaten up and they didn't notify me. I would have been mad and take further action, I would hold the principal, the teacher, and the 3rd grader responsible. This is how we can prevent from further violence down the road.

 

That's how I feel, see you are now an adult and you remember it like it was yesterday. I don't want my son to feel like that. But as far as the school is concerned it's not an issue to them. They have gave me no other choice but to take it further. My sons teacher called me yesterday and suggested I talk to his doctor because he seems angry all the time. I told her I'd feel angry too if I was picked on and hit on ALL the time. I have gave up on the schools help.

 

You didn't mention whether she was right handed or left handed, what colour hair she had, her build, or anything else about her other than the colour of her skin.

So, tell me why you felt obligated to point out the colour of her skin and not the colour of her hair? Are there that many Dee Edmondson's in the world? How many are black or white?

 

LET IT GO CHUMP!!!
If only I could meet you in person. I'd probably see a big ole butt on your shoulders!

 

I will always have those memories...from the good to the bad.

Now that I have kids of my own...def gonna use my experiences to teach them.

But I have question for you...have you sat down with your son and try to figure out what the problem is...why is this "bully" picking on him. Trying to see how your son can approach this on his own and trying to stick up for himself without fighting or verbal abuse...who knows? He might have tried that...right