Okay, so I have a small dillemma here. But it requires a little background info, so if you're bored, pull up a seat. A few weeks ago, after listening to my DH tell me how dumb I am to have a myspace page and that MS is just for hooking up, and blah blah blah....he asked me to make him one, lol. So I did, and just a few days later, a buddy of his from high school contacted him. Apparently they were great friends, but life happened, and they lost touch. Whatever, lol. They've been on the phone like two little girls since they re-connected. This buddy lives about 2 hours away, is married and has two kids. He and DH have been talking about how they can get together to hang out, and I suppose they came up with this great idea of them coming to my house, and spending the night here so they wouldn't feel rushed. Okay, I guess I'm down with that. I ask DH, are you sure he isn't some ax murderer? LOL So Saturday, DH informs me that this guy, his wife, his 9 year old son and his 3 year old daughter will be at our house Friday night. The issue here, is that I told DH I had plans on Saturday. They may not seem important to anyone else, but I have a coupon swap to go to. The swaps are only once a month, I take both girls, and I really enjoy going. Period. DH tells me not to worry about it, to go, and that he will entertain in my abscence. I think it's going to be awkward to leave them all there, and I don't know this woman, so if she isn't a couponer, she is going to get very bored very quickly at a swap. So my question is, is it rude for me to go ahead and proceed with my plans since no one cared to clear these plans with me in the first place? Thanks guys!
I'd stay at home, entertain the guests, tell DH that he owes you big time, and not to ever make plans again without consulting you. :-D
Go to the coupon swap, ask the other wife if she'd like to come ... if not, she can stay home ... it's up to her, no pressure ... hey, she may love the idea! Look at it this way ... this isnt just a social obligation you have to run to, it's important to your household finances!
Nah Jen...you need to stay home and play maid-servant to your hubby's guests like a good housewife should. :lol: Craig
Reverse the situation,If it were you that hadn't seen your tight friend in years,what would you want your DH to do,be honest,then you do for your DH what you would want him to do for you
I agree with Elims. Even if she may not want to go in the beginning, it would be a good way to get to know her and her kids too. In fact, see you husband can get up with him and ask his wife if she'd like to go, or when they call, ask to talk with her and mention it to her. Tell her to bring her coupons too!!! She may get some deals herself! Can't hurt to ask!!
Disagree with you Absaroka ... if the situation were reversed she may have consulted with DH first to ensure it was a good weekend for guests. Jen ... why not have DH call his friend and explain you commitment and see if his wife is interested in attending the swap. OR call her yourself ... then you could get some of the awkwardness out of the way before your face-to-face visit. She may be feeling similiar hesitation you are and about bringing her children into a strangers home.
Well, if you do go to the swap you could let the other wife know in advance that you'll be going to a coupon swap and she is welcomed to join you if she would like to. That way, if she happens to be a coupon queen too she if can bring her own coupons to the swap! If not, maybe she would like to tag along and learn what it is all about. BUT, you need to consider that you don't know her kids... would they be well behaved it she took them with her? Would you trust them to be at your house when your aren't there to watch what they're getting into -- (either with her there or with "the guys" watching them)? Is it worth going to the swap since you don't know these people and can't answer these questions?
It might be a lil rude, but it was rude of your husband to do what he did without talking to you first. Go to the coupon swap. Invite her, if she wants to stay home,let her. Go have a ball! Your husband should have thought of you FIRST!
LOL, I just might! He's told them both that I have a coupon swap to go to, and I don't know what they said, but I get the feeling it was, oh ok cool. I don't think she has the interest in going. Truth is, I wish he'd reschedule for another weekend, but he's so excited, I really hate to burst his bubble. Arrghhh, decisions!
He's probably just excited to get someone he knew before you over to the house to show off the pool and hottub and deck and bar area. You know how us guys are about that kinda stuff. Craig
Ugh...your just a nerd.....LOL ( I am thinking that is what they are thinking of you ...LOL) But anyways...he should have asked you first about company and overnight stay....lock up all your valuables. Ro
Yeah Craig, you're probably right. My DH LOVES to entertain. And he likes to show off too. But he coulda asked me first, right? LOL Men........
Triples will have come and gone already and I KNOW that you do not NEED coupons badly enough to skip out on your hubbie's long lost friend. Stay home. Make a big brunch!
If we only had the power that Mel Gibson had in What Women Want, we would set. We wouldn't have to ask what is wrong when you are mad which you invarably reply nothing so we let it go and then you get madder. yeah he should have asked, and I probably would have mentioned it as a possible idea to the wife before setting anything in stone, but that's just me. Craig
When I asked him when he was planning on telling me about his plans, he says Well, he just called, and we were talking about it, I figured I'd mention it to you this afternoon. I mean, if YOU REALLY DON'T WANT THEM TO COME (guilt implied)....... He's just excited, bless his little heart. He's gonna owe me big, I just hope their kids behave.....
Yes, that is exactly what we do! And don't forget that we also have these nifty little file cabinets in our brains where we STORE a file documenting every time that you guys do that to us, as well as all the details! :lol:
YES it would be rude and not to mention Tacky....I'd sure like to drive 2 hrs and my friends family leave to "swap coupons" it would tell me alot about his family but that's just my ever so humble opinion..LOL
