Should Aoptees have access to their Original Birth Certificates?

Not neccessarily true. I CAN speak as an adoptee and I have no void to be filled. In fact, what I know of my BM's life and the other two daughters she has, I'm the lucky one! I had a much betterr life than the other two. I also have known quite a few adoptees who do not care either. I also know plenty that have a burning desire to know. Like I said before, each case is different.

 

The Void I am speaking is what made you do the search for answers. Everything may have not been peachy for the other two but the desire to know this info was my point exactly.

 

Grace loving a child someone else gave birth to takes a special person so I commend you on that. It is very obvious that you love her very much and she is very lucky to have been adopted.

 

One of my best friends in the world adopted a special needs child from Korea. They have two boys already and now they have taken on this task to raise this kid. She has brittle bone disease and it cost them tons of mney in doctors fees. She can step wrong and break a leg. Hard road to travel. Especially financially.

 

Why is it so hard to adopt a child in the US? I know several people who have adopted children from other countries - Russia and China come to mind - and they have told me it was because it is so hard to adopt a child here, and takes so long. Why is that? Is there some way the adoption process could be made less cumbersome? I wonder if that would have any impact at all on the abortion rate? I'm thinking that if a person is pregnant, but sees no way she can raise the child for whatever reason, that if she had some assurance the child would be raised by a loving family, maybe she would be more likely to carry that child to term.

Just some random thoughts that I always think about when this subject comes up. Anyone have constructive ideas?

Peace & Love,
Pat

 

From what I understand the process takes so long because of the adoption agencies and the investigations they do. It is a long tedious process. They investigate every person in the family. That's why the cost is so freaking high in the US. Adoption from overseas is cheaper from what I was told. In the meantime you have agencies who have school age kids waiting to be adopted. They are advertised on the websites like a puppy in a pet shop. Very very annoying.

 

I still don't get why it takes so long. Sure, investigate the family, we don't want to have kids adopted by pedophiles or slavemasters, but why should it take years? When was in the army, I got a top secret clearance in a matter of weeks, for crying out loud, there have to be ways to streamline the system! :evil:

 

I wish I had an answer for you. I was adopted through the Childrens Home Society. Which is a non profit group. You can visit their website. They have children waiting to be adopted. Ages 3yrs up to 16 and 17.

 

Here's the rub! I did NOT search. My BM was the one that tracked ME down and told me what I know. I really didn't care. Not that I don't appreciate the informatioin, but I would have been just fine without it.

 

OK so there are two adoptees in the world who didn't want to know where they came from.

 

proves my point that you do not speak for all adoptee's

 

ME TOO!!

 

2 odd balls don't make a difference to a majority ruled issue. There are way more people like me than I don't cares. Regardless I feel the bill will be passed. We have alot of sponsors in Raleigh and I really think it is important for an adult who wants access to have it. Is my view biased?? Yes it is. Sorry just my opinion.

 

should be edited to read their is somebody or some organization lining the pockets of politicians to get this bill passed.

 

If that would help I can hook that up.

 

I am not an odd ball. I have known at least three other adoptees that could careless. I guess they're oddballs, too.

I'm just not sure what answers you are hoping to find, but I hope you find them.

 

Me? I have already found my answers which was posted in the beginning of this thread. Since I don't know you I will not call B.S. on that but I want to.

 

Apirate4ever, are you a Pastafarian?

 

Not sure what show this interview was on yesterday but, it happened sometime during my 3.5 hour drive in the snowstorm, but A.M. Homes' new memoir of adoption, "The Mistress's Daughter looks like it might be of interest to a number of you. Basically her BM found her except mom had some mental illness issues and her BF acknowledged her but barely.


The following link is an article called "An adoptee, exposed - Years after reuniting with my own birth mother, reading A.M. Homes' new memoir of adoption was like finding the journal I never kept." By Emma Pearse requires a subscription or a review of some advertisement material to review.

http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2007/04/12/homes_adoption/

 

adoptees

I AM A ADOPTEE AS WELL , I DO THINK WE SHOULD HAVE ACCESS TO OUR RECORDS AND EVRYTHING THEY KNOW . ITS JUST HEART ACHE IF THEY DONT .WHILE LIVING IN WILMINGTON MOST OF MY LIFE I APPLIED FOR A JOB AT BB&T THEY NEEDED MY BIRTH CER. SO , I NEW I HAD LOST THE ONE I HAD I WENT TO THE CORT HOUSE TO PICK UP ONE . COME TO FIND OUT IT WAS IN RALEIGH SO I HAD TO GO AND GET IT BEFORE I WAS HIRED . THAT JUST MAKES IT BAD FOR EVERYONE . WELL MINE IS ON FILE NOW FOR SURE .
I REALLY DONT KNOW MUCH ABOUT MY SITUATION ABOUT WHY I WAS GIVEN UP .ALL I KNOW IS THAT I WAS THE 7TH CHILD.