Oh i dont know....throw them in a home....but make it a nice home and visit them twice a month on Sundays when you should be in church. Course, the relative viscosity of a Char-Grill milkshake makes it almost impossible to figure out how many sheets of legal sized paper you can print on from one single ink cartridge. Now i know you ask, but what if its an ink cartridge that has been refilled at Staples and not a brand new one? Well then my good reader, i will tell you that if your dog eats more than 5 doggie biscuits a day, then you better be ready to check the amount of gas in your lawn mower because nobody, and i mean nobody, goes hang gliding in Rochester anymore.
That is a very interesting post that I haven't seen addressed. My personal view is that we are to "honor" our father and mother throughout our lives. I do not believe, however that means that adult children should have to necessarily adhere and agree with their parents on everything. The marriage bond between a husband and wife clearly is a right of passage into adulthood and reveals a greater responsibility to the spouse, but doesn't represent abandonment of the parents. I think that God desires for children to have a moral interests in seeing that their parents are treated with dignity and respect. Notice how Jesus tells the disciple John to behold Mary as his mother. This is in effect, Jesus showing honor for his mother.
Keep em stocked with depends. Since most of you don't have a sense of humor, I should identify this as a joke for you.
I agree with Jester. I believe there is a time when roles change. We as children take the lead as it pertains to our parents well being. I wonder if more of our society did that would we need the institutions we have. I have heard of a situation after situation where Our older generations, with the God given wisdom, are shut away almost never to be heard from. I believe the lesson from history is, "we have not learned anything from history." Well I was just curious. Thx
Biblical responsibility.... I think my parents will out live me. They sure are more active. My dad will be 67 and my mom will be 63. A BUNCH OF SPRING CHICKENS!! I would not put mine in any home cause they would come back and haunt me. I believe in honoring your mother and father, but there is a time to draw the line when there is a medical condition, then you slap them in a home...lol Joking...I'd NEVER do that.
My two cents: stuff it. I put my mom in an assisted living after my DAd died. She can't live by herself. (too many medical issues) She can't live with me - house too small and I don't want hers. and I don't want to sell mine and move. In the assisted living she is in they have outing, movies, bingo, games , crafts, trips to chick–fil-a and Wal-Mart. If she were home with me she would sit home and do nothing until I and/or kiddo got home. Boring. The book mobile even goes there. I go to see her twice a week. They take her to her doctor’s appointments and such so I can still work. I take her out to dinner and to the stores. I purposely put her somewhere close. And I do all her laundry and bring her everything she wants and needs. I don’t think it’s a cop out. I never have to worry about her. The aides and nurses take good care of her. What point is there in keeping her cooped up in my house, waiting on her and her waiting on me for every form of entertainment, other then to say , “Look what a martyr I am?”
Peppercorns, I think what you are doing is great. I think that is a responsible response to you mom. My concern is for children who abandon their parents in their old age. Each of us have different circumstances which dictate what we can and cannot do.
I already told my mom and dad that's where they are going. I don't feel bad about it not one little bit! I am not "certified" to take care of a elderly parent NOR can I lift my mom or dad should they fall on the dern floor! The only grandma I have left is in an assisted place, like Peppa said, they play bingo, they have scareoky on Tuesday nights (sometimes Wednesday's) and they have outings and the best nurses who can take care of them! did that even answer the ? who knows!
I don't see that much of a problem with assisted living or nursing home in the right circumstances. Plus, hopefully as we age we learn to accept our health and realize that sometimes its necessary to give up independence for better well-being. Being a growing physical or financial burden takes its toll on the family. That said, a person who places an elderly resident in a home should certainly be prepared for the same fate when that appointed time arrives. Of course, for a elderly person in decent health, that's the great things about home health care...if the arrangements can be made. My grandfather and grandmother lived into their late 80s and were able to live at home with the help of a few children who could share some duties as well as having home health during the day. Again a sick and/or elderly person can take a toll in their care. Ensuring that a parent is well-cared for is showing honor in my opinion. However, dropping them off at the doorstep with no further concern is not. We all know the reputation that some of these types of facilities have and that is why no assumptions should be made in such a situation. I have parents and I am a parent. A father and mother can not have children and raise children with attached expectations. You teach them morals, love and compassion and send them out into the world. Then when you're old, you hope that you did a good enough job to receive some of those qualities return to you one day.
???? What would you do if one of your parents passes away and the other has no place to go or is in no condition to live on their own, mentally, physically or financially. Would you bring them into your house? would you be compelled too? Would you attend to your parent?
My mom pays into an "assisted living insurance plan", she pays about $5g's a year into it, and it guarantees her rates not to go up from the time she enrolled several years ago, and she is only 60 and very healthy and active. She can pick from a wide variety of different "homes", depending on the level of care she will need when that time comes. She is currently assisting my great-aunt in getting situated in a home, so it's given her lots to think about and things to look for that we might not think of down the road. She'd probably got several homes picked out in different areas up and down the eastern seaboard for herself. She is good with her money, and has had a good nest-egg for when that time rolls around for quite a while. I just want her to be near me so that we can visit and do things together still.
It is my belief that family is responsible for family...society isn't responsible for caring for your family when you are able to do it. I'm reminded of Sarah Jessica Parker's stupid remarks before the 2004 elections. This millions of dollars-earning sad sack said that she didn't want Bush re-elected because he wanted to cut welfare programs and she had relatives that depended on welfare...:shock:
That's comical and then it truly isn't. However, it seems that a very high percentage of hollywood actors and recording artists typically spout off political jargon that they wind up tripping over. Most should express their opinions like everyone else these days...on the internet under an assumed name. Anyway, to bring a single parent into a home to share with your spouse and kids could be disruptive. Personally, I feel its a matter best left to each spousal unit to make, but I must say I admire the initiative to do so. Many factors exists in making that decision like the willingness of the family, size of the house, demeanor the all those involved, financial status, etc. In the very least, I would hope that if all possible an adult child would put forth the effort to see a single parent moved appropriately closer so as to routinely monitor how they are coping with life as a senior and give them some degree of regular companionship. A decent person (especially a parent) should not have to live out the remaining years of their lives as a lonely individual.
