Does Anyone Know where Help can be gotten

WIC
Workfirst
Smartstart
AngelFood ministries - you can get a box of food for 25.00
Buckaroo Express is hiring for PT help last I looked
A few posters on here need their houses cleaned for move outs
Does she have any baby goods to sale?

 

[FONT=arial,helvetica]HI AM LOOKING FOR A LITTLE HELP. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE HAVING BAD LUCK RIGHT NOW. HE WORKED FOR 8 DAYS AND GOT RIGHT AT 60 HOURS AND HAVE NOT GOT PAID, WE CAN NOT FIND THE GUY TO PAY US. SO THERE FOR WE NEED HELP WITH DIAPER FOR OUR 2 YEAR OLD. WE HAVE NOT MONEY, WE ONLY HAVE 6 DIAPERS LEFT.AND NO WIPES. WE HAVE NOT FOOD IN OUR HOUSE. WE TOOK OUR LAST $7 AND GOT OUR SON SOME FOOD. WE HAVE BEEN EATING PLAIN NODDLES WITH NOTHING ON THEM. BC OUR SON COMES FIRST. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE MONEY. JUST SOME HELP. I CAN OFFER SOME STUFF FOR BARTER, YES I HAVE BEEN TO SS. AND THEY SAID WE CANT GET FOOD STAMPS. YES THEY GAVE ME THE THINGS TO GO GET FOOD FROM CHURCHS AND WE DID. AND THAT IS GONE. I HAVE NO ONE ELSE TO TURN TO. YOU CAN EVEN COME TO MY HOUSE AND LOOK AND SEE WE ARE FOR REAL. PLEASE IF SOMEONE COULD HELP US OUT UNTIL WE CAN GET OUR MONEY OUT OF THIS GUY. I HATE TO ASK. BUT MY SON NEEDS IT. THANKS IF YOU CAN HELP. PS. I ONLY HAVE A QUARTER TANK OF GAS SO I CAN NOT TRAVLE FAR.


I know, quit looking for the guy and get a job. Only worked 8 days? I better stop now while I am ahead. What more does she need looong term? They can not live with me.
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Thanks everyone for your posts. Right now her light bill is okay and the food is holding up. The main concern is the rent. I have made some calls but to no avail as of yet. Hopefully something will come available.
Faye, I will be contacting you in the near future. thanks

 

Why isnt she making the calls?

Just wondering.....

 

She does no have a phone. She uses my cell after work, then everything is closed. I use my cell for work and can not leave it with her all day.

 

You need to let HER figure it all out. There are pay phones and stuff. If she really wanted it.

You may be doing her an injustice.

Just think about it.

I know it seems hard to do..........Just think we all made it somehow.

She has to....

Look on the ground, have you ever seen baby bird bones there. when they got pushed out of the nest on their own, they flew.

I can see helping but only to a certain extent. Dont you think?

Maybe I am wrong.......

 

Wow, i guess compassion is just not available on this board today. As the mother of grown children you will help when they are in dire straits as much as you can especially if there are children involved. It is a natural thing.

 

I look forward to hearing from you, Amma. You are also welcome to e-mail me at fprosser@mindspring.com.

Thanks for the link on the other family in need, K.

Faye

 

Mark the date....


I completely agree with T4T.


I have an older sister who was helped first by my mother then grandmother. She's 9 yrs older than me and STILL doesn't know how to manage money. After Grandmother died, I took the task on. About 2 years ago I said enough is enough and quit helping. She's facing losing her house and I WILL NOT step up. She has to fend for herself.

Helping your adult daughter can be way more harm than good. She needs to do all the things you are doing..for herself. She needs to learn how to fend for herself...and, yes, I would do that with my own child, having lived thru it with my sister.

Frogger

 

Froggie, if you notice, i did say dire straits. i am a firm believer in tough love but i also know that sometimes people do get in circumstances where they honestly need help and i don't know of any mother who can turn her back. Big difference in carrying someone and helping someone when needed.

 

^^^I know, I know, Kaci. Helping out in dire straits is one thing. Continuing to help out after 6 months, a year, 5 years...then the person has become co-dependent on you and won't/can't do things for themselves that they need to do to survive.

Frogger

 

You're right, Frogger, it can get to be a lifestyle, and that doesn't help anyone. But in this case, the OP suggests it has only been a couple of months.

A lot of people are only one or two paychecks away from serious trouble. The young lady is fortunate to have her mother to help her out, and I hope she gets back on her feet soon. Maybe she'll be able to return the favor someday.

Pat

 

Trust me, Pat, I am intimately familiar with the one-paycheck-from-disaster scenario. Sudden life changes can put you there . There's a lot of middle-of-the-night stress wondering where the rent's coming from, if you'll have lights tomorrow, be able to take a shower tomorrow or will you wake up to no water? I know that feeling well.

I'm not trying to be a crab. It's just a little reminder that, after awhile, if an adult kid doesn't make the effort to take care of themselves, you're heading towards trouble. I wish mom & daughter a lot of luck in this situation!


Frogger

 

Yup, I'm sure we're on the same page here, Frogger, I didn't mean what I was saying to come across as negative. I think we both agree: short-term help=good; long-term help=not so much.

Take care!
Pat

 

"You can't help someone who won't help themselves"

 

^^^Thank you, HG. You said it perfectly.

 

I never asked for any help, must be someone else...Sorry.

 

Another resource that may be able to help...

With Love From Jesus Ministry
http://www.withlovefromjesus.org

 

I wasnt on any govt assistance. what are u talking about.