Next Teen Night is Tonight.

Honey, I have a 19 year old and a 14 year old, so I'm already there!

The 19 year old pretty much does what he wants now... including working and paying for his car insurance, etc. We do not allow him to have parties at our house because we are a Christian family, this is a Christian home, and that kind of behavior goes against our beliefs. I know I can't live his life for him and not let him make any mistakes (and he has already made many mistakes!), but I still, as his parent, talk to him and try to steer him away from dangers in the world. That is my job! I didn't suffocate him and never let him leave the house when he was younger, but I did give reasonable limits and boundaries.

The 14 year old is a different story. He is still a MINOR CHILD and he is not and will not be allowed to go to a BAR to dance with girls who are acting like hoochie mamas! Yes, he will make mistakes and he will do things behind my back, I'm sure - but that is different from me giving him my permission to do such things. And when he does such things, he will learn what "suffering the consequences" means.

As far as the music goes... not all Christian music is gospel. There are Christian music alternatives to almost every style imaginable these days. It isn't the sound of the music that I object to, it's the lyrics. My 14 year old likes that screaming stuff that I can't stand (DEFINITELY not my style!) and listens to Demon Hunter http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demon_Hunter
http://youtube.com/watch?v=pNCoih1G9_Q
Even though I don't like that style of music, as long as the lyrics are clean I have no problem with him listening to it.

 

Well ,theres a little bit of difference on a beach everyones in their bikini but in a club while riding a bull is trashy in my o. Sounds like a place for young girls to practice to become strippers ,maybe I'm just old fashioned for my age but I was raised by my grannie and she taught me if I did'nt respect myself and my body nobody else would and thats how I am raising my daughter .It may sound snotty but I think I'm personally to good for that and hope she will always think more of herself than that.There is a big problem these days with the way people are raising their daughters they think dressing like a street walker and putting out for every boy who sweet talks them is ok and being called the B word H word is some term of endearment its really sad that girls today don't exspect to be respected most of them don't even know the meaning of self respect.

 

No, but being too restrictive through high school was generally the reason given for those freshmen going wild in college.

 

Trust me now they have people who video you when you go wild it can haunt you forever. lol

 

No it does not, but it does greatly increase the odds from my experience. I cannot say which is worse for any given child because I do not know them, but many seem to think they can do so.

 

Yes, and even back before the advent of video there were Polaroids and witnesses whou would do the same .... or so I was told by those involved as I was ALWAYS an angel in high school and college 8) :mrgreen:

Honestly, I know of four who got too wild and did something very stupid that really ruined their lives for a very long time.

 

I was also an angel I still am .The secret is to drink enough so you can not remember what you did therefore it did'nt really happen it may have been a dream unless some punk videos it. just kiddin

 

Or all of your "friends" saw it and were sober enough to remember .....

Of course, if you have footprints on the inside of your car windows that are much smaller than your own you may have some explaining to do as well .... or so I was told (really was not my car)

 

Well, my feet are small size 6 if they were smaller it wasn't me someone used my car cause men with small feet are a turn off lol

 

so you stole the car to knock one out! :shock::lol:

 

Ken, of course celebrating isn't against my beliefs, you know what I meant... I'm talking about not letting a NINETEEN year old have DRINKING parties in our home. Come on now. :roll:

 

Well, you try typing with a 5 year old asking you a million questions at the same time. I only had a few minutes to type that before I had to get off the computer... just like now. Toodles for now!

 

No, that is where you're at now. The questions I was getting were these, (and more)...

"Mom, could a frog eat a house?" "Mom, could a house eat a frog?" "Mom, could a frog eat a dog? " "Mom, could a dog eat a frog"

Silly questions and lots of giggles. :-D

 

I must say, I had only been in Magoo's twice before they started letting the underage use the club, but I have not been back since they started. That is how I am stating that I do not support what they are doing...I choose not to patronize.

 

FendyCature wrote:

Controlled? Are you showing the guys how to grind against your daughter's backside to make sure they get it right? I'd say you're walking dangerously close to the edge of the laws concerning your responsibilities as a parent. I blame parents like you for the problems caused by places like this more than I blame the owner.

Oh well, what do we expect? This is rap culture at its finest. A whole dance club full of pimps and ho's.

The attitude of "if I don't let them be free, they'll hide it from me" is really a way of saying "I'm trying to raise a child, but I really have no idea what I'm doing." That's a recipe for losing all respect from your child. My daughter might make some stupid mistakes, but at least she'll remember that her daddy warned her.

 

No, but it WAS evident what had been going on by the placement of the footprints on the windows .... at least that was the story going through the campus groups.

 

It was a guys car so that was the give away point ... :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

My daughter's question was: "Mom, how do birds stand on the electrical wires and not get their feet burned?" :lol:

 

It's really quite simple....

Kids need boundaries...and yes, even 17-year-olds need boundaries. If you don't set boundaries and limits, then they are led to believe that life is a free-for-all.

Yes, they will often over-step those boundaries. But that will be their decision and they will have to endure the consequences.

But if the parent appears to condone that which is outside the boundaries, then the child will always....ALWAYS...blame the parent for those consequences because the child will feel that they were led "astray" by the parent not setting a boundary.

Saying "He/she would do it anyway...might as well be doing it under my nose"...is a cop-out. What you are saying is really: "Setting the boundary not to do it would mean a battle with the kid and I just don't feel up to it."

And that's why we have so many brats running around these days. Some of them in their 20s.

 

You said it!! Exactly!