Should Aoptees have access to their Original Birth Certificates?

My best friend growing up was adopted. She finally found her birth family and they want nothing to do with her, not even her siblings..it was a heartbreaking thing for her to go through.

I think there should be a national database for adoptees and their birth families. That all vital information about the bp be in it except the BP name. If the BP decides they want the adoptee to know who they are then at any time they can give permission for their personal information to be released and at that time the database could be updated with that information. Same goes for the adoptee, they could have their personal information either withheld from the database or added, if they wanted to be found.

 

Or worse yet, abandon them.

 

I'll have to agree with SB here...............I can understand both sides of it for sure. Believe it or not, my father gave us up (3 of us) for adoption when we were 8, 5 & 3. I always thought that he did it at my Mom's request so that step dad could adopt us.............found out years later it was because he didn't want to pay child support any more and it was all his idea. Good riddance to bad rubbish as far as I'm concerned. He's tried to contact me in years past, but I want NOTHING to do with some SOB who willingly gave me up as an 8 year old! Unfortunately, I know little to nothing about the health history on that side, but I guess not knowing is better than getting involved in his life. Supposedly I have 2 more half siblings, never met 'em. Maybe I will after he's dead. :evil:

 

I absolutely positively 100% agree!

 

Now that I have found my BP's all is good. It is unfortunate that adoptees have no rights.

 

It's too bad these people did not adopt their son out -

http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/1500534/

 

Actually, they do but those rights just do not supercede the rights of those choosing to place children for adoption. As has been noted, the effect of granting this "right" to supercede the rights could result in fewer adoptions, which is not a positive move for anyone involved.

 

I don't know how you could say 'adoptees' have no rights. Adoptees had the right to be born and placed with a loving family, she (the birth mother) could have decided to have an abortion.

 

I can say it again. Adoptees have no rights. NONE!!. Keep it in context to. Adoptees have absolutely NO sense of self. We have no avenue for that info. Door is slammed all over the place. But on the other hand you have Private Detectives who will be glad to take your 2K to 4K just to get a name. Not an address. But a name. Ohhh but wait. You want to know your fathers name to?? That will be 2K to 4K in addition to. Sensitive topic. Unless you are adopted a fence rammed in your rear end is not the way to approach it.

 

But that is my point also Wayne. It's easy to dispassionize an adoptee.

 

I do understand, I do. I hope I didn't come across as though I didn't. I know it has to be hard, on both sides, the curious, grown up adoptee and the person who gave the baby up.

 

So you would have preferred to be aborted? :?

 

Nope never implied I wanted to end up in a pale. In context. After being Adopted....an Adoptee has NO rights.

 

Or at best abandoned and left in foster care until you were of age? With even less chance of finding your birth family as a side benefit.

 

Spoken like a true adoptive mother. Protect what you have and screw the rest. Got it.

 

I knew what you meant Grace, and God Bless you as an adoptive Mother. Your Daughter sure is lucky to have you, and judging by the comment she made about 'being happy with what life you have', shows just how lucky she is .... on so many levels.

 

NO KIDDING! Now THAT is a great idea, that way, just like everything else in this world....you know right where to go to find what you need. There is your million dollars sister.....

SOUTHERNBORN FOR PREZ!

 

Well you deserve, along with all the others on here, who are adopted. :-D

Now do me a favor ....go on over to that other thread ("THIS...")where the "Angry Offender' keeps typing small novel-type responses and make him go bye bye. :roll:

 

Yes they should. Just because you have lost a limb is no reason to withhold a person birth cirtificates?

 

"Aoptees" ~ amputees