Ok I have a problem, not a big problem but a strange one and I don't know how to handle it. This man I dated long time ago has gotten married I am very happy for him hes a really good person. We broke up on good terms it was one of those things that we agreed on he wanted to get married have more kids and I didn't wasn't ready. Already had the one didn't and still don't want anymore.Well , things ended friendly . Well, here is the problem his new wife whom I have met one time at a pool party last summer for two min. seemed very sweet so I was so happy for him, before that day I hadn't seen him in 3 years or so. Anyways, she started sending me emails and calling me.( not sure how she got my info I didn't give it to her and he dosen't have it or anyone who would know them has it) well shes very nice BUT , she is asking me questions about him and me things from when we were together and I don't want to answer these questions it just feels strange why she would ask me these things its personal stuff about our sex life things like that. I have caller ID so I haven't spoke to her but have emailed her back and said things like hope you are doing good takecare bestwishes stuff like that but she keeps sending me stuff asking all kinds of personal questions and I don't know what to say or not say.She has also asked me to send her pics of us when we were together some that he dosen't already have.Why would she want to know these things and why would she want pictures of us? it makes no sence. What should I do? I thought maybe tell her to ask him ,that he was there too but I really do not think he knows shes doing this. She also says in her emails how they are so happy together and are soul mates so I don't think its a security issue with her. I am starting to think she is a nut.
Oh, I'm guessing it is a security issue with her. Just because she says everything is wonderful doesn't mean she believes it. She sounds very insecure, and quite possibly a nut case to boot. You are right not to tell her anything. Maybe you could just say it was a long time ago, it's all in the past and you don't want to talk about it. I think you have good instincts - not answering her phone calls is smart, and you don't really have to answer her e-mails, either. I think you're handling it fine, keep it up, and good luck to you!
Respond to the next e-mail, tell her you are not interested in discussing your relationship with her husband, advise her you are blocking future e-mails from her and wish her a happy life. Then block all e-mails from her e-mail address. Do not answer her phone calls.
I think thats a good idea. I am going to do that. I just can not uderstand why shes doing this I got 15 emails from her today alone. This is something that happened years ago long before he met her I can not understand her interest . The last one she sent about an hour ago asking me to meet with her for lunch the crazy lady lives 2 hours away they live in SC .
Sounds like a nut case to me. I might consider changing my phone number and email address, seriously. 15 emails in one day?? Definite stalker tendencies there!
Its crazy ! I sent a email and said I do not feel comfortable talking about him behind his back and I am not going to. If you have any questions or concerns about our relationship you need to direct them to him not me.I do not know you and doubt he even knows you are contacting me. I have blocked your emails if you contact me again I will let him know whats going on I have printed and saved your emails DO NOT CONTACT ME ANYMORE!!! I hope you two have a nice life together . Maybe that will scare her if she thinks I may tell him cause I am sure he don't know . I am not going to tell him but she don't know that. I wouldn't tell him because I wouldn't want to hurt him I am at the point now where I am going to change my home # but my cell is needed to stay the same so I may call and see if I can block her # from calling me .As far as emails she has my work email and my home email so maybe if I just block them she can not get threw.
make some stuff up. say hes really freaky when the lights go out....especially with fruit and an extension cord.
Could it be that he's a totally different person with her, than the guy you remember being with? Did she say exactly what's bothering her about him to make her have all these insecurities? She might not be a nut case but someone that is in a situation looking for a way out. I do agree with the way you've handled the situation. I'd have done the same thing but now you have our interest into who this lady really is and what's going on with her and the new hubby, starting to sound like the makings of a good movie.
Save EVERYTHING! I agree she could be a freak or she might be looking a way out. I have been in a situation kinda like this before, me and my ex ended on good terms i started seeing other people and so did he. Well the girl that he was seeing was a freakin weird *** and started emailing me and getting her friends to email me and ask strange questions about the guy. When I told him all about it he confronted her and she said that I was a liar and wrote up fake emails and gave them to him saying that I was bad mouthing him. Anywho, I saved all my emails and got the cops and sheriff involved and it all stopped.
Hey, they might be trying to practice the principle. Ever seen Big Love on HBO? They could be lookin' a second wife.
LOL!!! Hey that could be true too, he may have turned into a swinger!! I have a few friends who have ex's that are now swingers!
Well, I stopped getting emails today cause I reported it this morning after I checked my emails and she changed her address and sent another one.But I found out threw a friend they are not together they split and he served seperation papers on her and is living here and she lives in SC . So I don't know what her deal is now but have blocked all emails on my personal accounts and changed my work account.I was told she can get up to 50 accounts a day at yahoo and keep changing and emailing me so I temp. blocked any and all emails. Did I mention the emails started a month after he left her and I am not the only person getting them a few friends who are friends with us both are getting them . just found that out. I was invited to go to a party this weekend where hes gonna be . Do not know if I am going to go yet or not.
