Well I dont know how many of yall went to the winndixi off of 70 before it turned into the church....but they have sets of 2 speedbumps on each side of the entrance....They were the tall speed bumps so youreally couldnt speed over them...They could install something like that, that could possibly help
Mine TRIED to dart out of my hand ONCE. He rides in the cart now. I told him when I think he's big enough, he can then walk. Until then, he rides! I hope the child is ok and feel oh so sorry for both the driver and the parent. Hopefully nothing was hurt but an ego. K
Ahh, I'm sorry, but the info on this thread states it was a two year old child that was struck. TWO years old folks! The one to blame is the parent that was with them. If they are too slippery to hold onto at the age of two and you can't put their bottom into your grocery cart to get them out to you car, then leave them the heck home. If someone looses grip of a two year old and one darts out in front of my vehicle, causing me to strike it, I can guarantee you that after I change my pants I'm gonna have a whole lot to say to the mother. I couldn't sleep at night if I ever hit a child, whether it was my fault or not. That child is YOUR responsibility. Put some rosin on them for goodness sake.
This particular FL is incredibly dangerous to get in and out of. Motorists do not just bother not to stop to let anyone cross but they do not even begin to slow their speed. Then you add into the mix the many, many people who park in the fire lane. Speed bumps might work but I would much prefer a crossing guard!
Have any of you considered that there might be more to this story than meets the eye? Many, many children are behaviroally, mentally challenged and honest to goodness can't learn right from wrong. There are some that have sensory integration disorders or autism and you can't keep hold of them to save your life. I have one of those kids that darts away from me! I try to contain him. Ican't yell at him...he's deaf. He can't see me that well...he's going blind. He screams and wails when I ahve a very tight grip on me and the other grocery shoppers think I'm being mean and I get dirty looks. He hates to be held b/c of the SI disorder. I've tried the leashes....don't work. Now, he is 4yo,almost 5yo. Some of us don't have the option of a sitter either. I'm just saying before people get on this mother's case, this may just be an accident. Our kids "look" normal but do not act their age. Even in stores. I can honestly say we have firm rules in place for behavior and such. I try things to get them to help me and defintiely don't let them get in the way of other shoppers. However, that can not stop my 14yo (who is mentally 7yo) going up to a total stranger and telling them what she thinks. They give me a look, yell at her and she doesn't understand what she's done. They do this b/c people can't see her mental retardation and blame me as a parent for not teaching her. hello, I teach life lessons every single day. Some she may never, ever get. So, before you say stuff to people, you might want to get the WHOLE story as it might be something that is beyond their control such as a mental or behavorial disability. On the other hand, there are a ton of rude, obnoxious kids out there who's parents could care less what they do or even try to stop them from getting hurt. Don't know which it was in this case but trying not to say anything till I know the whole story. Sometimes, things aren't what they seem. I had a lady yelling at my husband and I at Christmas time. Our son was turned around in the van, her car parked next door. He was screaming at our son trying to get his attention. She said rudely to us "well, you don't have to scream at the kid!" We said, "ah, yes we do....he's deaf." Again, not what it appeared to another passerby. Have a great weekend all. Stephanie--mom to 7
Stephanie...thanks for your post....since I too deal with children with disabilities on a daily basis, I was thinking the same thing...many parents truly do the best they can, and sometimes thngs like this happen.... Not that I don't agree that some parents need a tighter, closer watch on their children, but it's not always as it seems....
While I agree with you 100%, children are NOT predictable at that age. You can be the safest, most caring, security officer mom you want to be and things STILL happen. And in most cases the mother is wanting to "change her pants" as well. We are always very quick to judge and put parents down when things happen. Usually, unless we were there and saw the entire incident, we really have NO idea how it happened. We don't think the situation through, we jump. If this was a case where the mother was doing all she could and it happened, maybe the thing to do would be to offer some sort of consolation to HER as well. Getting in her face and giving her your 2 cents is NOT helping. Offering support and actually LISTENING to her side would be the better route. Don't you think she was just as upset as the person who hit the child?
Again, we are talking about a 2 year old. If a mother can't control a two year old - to safely see that child through a parking lot whether it be carrying, or pushing them in a cart, she has a serious problem. I doubt she'd be listening too well to my side if I were the driver of the car that struck them. It's over, it's done. Reportedly, the child in question is safe. Hopefully, their mother learned a lesson. Posts come in from people with different situations, while I feel for what they are going through on a day-to-day basis and can't even imagine their frustration, this topic, at least the one I made comments to - regard only the TWO YEAR OLD child that was struck by a vehicle.
Food Lion You can't change the set up of the Food Lion parking lot for a child who's parent was properly supervising them. Besides, why does ANYONE even shop at that GROSS store to begin with?
Yep, parents fault. I hate to sound this way, but if you can't control your children in public (resturants, stores, etc) keep them at home. This is one of biggest pet peeves...always has been. I hate a screaming kid, and so do my children...it actually upsets them..they make comments to me what is wrong with those people. I always say, the parents don't discipline them that's what wrong!
Yep, you are right its not my job to watch other peoples kids. Its not Foodlions job either or any other stores job. Thats what makes me so sick about people they exspect the world to raise and put up with their kids . If you do not want to watch and teach your kids right from wrong then do not have any. There are lots of Birth control options out there. I think they need to start giving condoms out for free cause some people do not need to have kids.
Well I couldn't be more satisfied to know about all the PERFECT PARENTS we have out there today. You know, the ones who have so much control that their kids would NEVER do anything. Got news for ya folks, you're not perfect and I'm sure your kids have done SOMETHING. No one has perfect little angels. I believe I said before that 2 year olds are NOT PREDICTABLE. Should parents hang on to them more and be more careful? Should older kids be disciplined more to know better? Yes. Do we know that this mother was, in fact, neglectful in this incident? No. And while a mother may need to be more careful, people driving through parking lots need to as well. I drive like a TURTLE in a parking lot for reasons such as this incident. I am looking so hard to be sure no one is in danger, I get honked at and dirty looks from other people who are in a hurry.
I have never said I was perfect. BUT, when my child was 2 years old she was in a cart that I was pushing coming out of a store. Going into a store she was on my hip. For one reason alone some people drive threw parking lots like a bat outta hell. I do not blame the mom, I do not think the mom set out that day thinking " how can I let my kid get hurt today hmmm maybe I will push her out in traffic" . I hope she did let this open her eyes to the fact that 2 year olds need adult supervision at ALL times. I feel so much sympathy for this woman she has enough guilt I am sure with out anyone else putting it on her. But, their are alot of parents who do not teach their kids to behave , hold moms hand sit in the cart. It has nothing to do with just parenting skills but common since. As far as you are concerned, Thankyou for driving like a turtle in parkinglots everyone should but for some reason they don't.
Seriously....way not perfect parent here... however I never let my then-2 yr old walk to or from a store. She was either in my arms or in the cart. I am familiar with special needs as well. If this was a special needs case, I look harder at the parent. Never put a 2-yr old's feet on the ground in that kind of parking/store situation! :? Frogger
Another not perfect here, but mine is 4 and half, and STILL rides in the cart. And mine also knows that he will get a spanking if he does stuff like that. I am raising him the same way I was raised. To be respectful (as much as a 4 year old can be) and to know right from wrong. He's not abused or neglected, but he is mindful and taken care of. I was one of "those parents" today. In Walmart, I saw 2 hispanic children with TWO adults, both of the kids were under the age of 5 or 6 and the smallest being about 3 years old proceeded to open the freezer section and LICK the door for 3-5 minutes. It was NASTY. BOTH adults saw him and said nothing, just continued on. Mine knows better than this, and if he did it, I would def. say something. Parenting today needs to be more parenting and less friendships. K
Geez people, plain and simple - if the child is 2 years old, the child should be in a cart or in the parent's arms - how in the world could anyone blame it on the store:shock:
About 4 years ago, I was sitting at the breakfast table one Saturday reading the paper, and movement caught my eye out of the big window in the dinning room. I looked out and there was a little girl about 4 years old, just wandering around my "lower 40". I have a large back yard with a creek on the back edge, and this scared me to death. I ran out to the child and tried to find out who she belonged to, but she didn't speak English. My neighbor saw me out there and came out, and she said that the child belonged to the Honduran family that moved in about 5 houses down the prior weekend. She said that every weekday morning about this time, she had to retreive the child and take her back home. She said the parents spoke no English, but never seemed to be the least bit concerned that their 4 year old daughter was wandering the neighborhood alone, 5 houses down. Eventually, we got used to her wandering around...but never stopped worrying about her. As she got older, she began to not do it as often.
