I did something very bad. My boyfriend asked me what I thought was a innocent question. He said if you could sleep with anyone in the world and it not be cheating who would it be name 3. I should have known then it was a trick question. Well, he named his 3 first, one was a porn star then the other were Angilina Jolie ( spelled wrong get over it ) and a girl in a video . Anyways , I didn't want to do this but was assured its not a big deal I won't get mad.Well, against my better judgment I went along named my 3 and.... He got mad. I named 3 people just like he did and now he is mad whats up with that? He actually put down my 3 people and keeps making little comments about it. So my question is ........... should I say I am sorry or wait it out ?
Hes acting like I owe him a apology. So thats my question do I owe him a I am sorry. I feel like he shouldn't have asked me if he didn't want a answer.
Sounds like he's insecure? :? Maybe not a stable relationship? :? Note - guys don't REALLY want to know who you'd sleep with. Even though you wouldn't - hopefully Why ask? Isn't there anything else to talk about than something that MAY cause an argument? I wouldn't apologize. He started it
You do not owe him an apology. Are you sure he's worth the drama? Sounds like he needs to grow up and stop playing those silly mind games.
I'd say go find the girl in the video (because the other two are out of reach) and tell him you will do a threesome with her and him. THEN see what he says! :mrgreen:
Thats how I feel he started it. I just don't understand why even ask if your gonna get mad. I didn't get mad with him and he went first. He has some past jealousy issues . He is in anger managment now , I am starting to think its not working for him.
:? Anger Management? I can understand jealousy issues when your are 12 but he needs to understand that you are NOT the person that chated on him (not unless it WAS you who cheated on him). IF so that will take time to heal on his part.
Oh no never cheated on him was accused every time I walked outside but never did. I think I forgot to mention I did not choose stars or rock stars . I chose people I know. Thats why I think he's mad.Who would choose somebody your never gonna meet, thats stupid.
He don't have time to cheat cause he spends every free second following me around. I don't really mind cause I don't do anything wrong so I figure its his time and money maybe he will figure out If I say I am going so & so thats where I am going. This is his third chance to straighten up. Its also his last chance. He is really trying hard except this issue.
Angel...........................in my best big sister voice.............RUN!! Seriously, this is a road you don't want to go down. Red flags everywhere. BTW, your "mistake", if you want to call it that, was naming real life people. But it sounds like he would have been a butt about it no matter what. Why people ask questions they really don't want to know the answer to is beyond me. DH and I have a deal though. He gets a free pass for Faith Hill, I get one for Tim McGraw............:mrgreen:
mmmm...thats what I was wondering....thats where you went wrong! :mrgreen: His were fantasies, yours were reality....thats threatening to him, especially if these are people you are around or see (I assume). So he's thinking you want to be with these guys (when you see them).
Uhhh...did you just say he is following you around? This sounds more than just anger. Are you sure that he is not the overly possessive type who will become abusive? Is he trying to stop you from being with your friends and family? Does he try to make you feel as if arguments are always your fault? Does he make you feel GOOD about yourself, or does he make you feel BAD? These are traits of an abusive partner. Trust me when I tell you that things do NOT ever get better, no matter how many "anger management" classes a person attends.
Doesn't sound like marriage material to me. Isn't that what dating is for to get to know someone ... to know if he is the one?! Is that what you want to marry? His response is something I would expect from a woman. Don't you want a man?
that's definitely where you went wrong. lots of couples have fantasy "who would you do"s, but they're not the person living next door, or someone you work with. they're fantasies. unreachables. why on earth would you tell someone with a history of jealousy and who is in anger management that you'd sleep with someone you could actually sleep with? i hate to say, but "DUH" jmho
You didn't say "who" you picked? Now, I'd be P'd if you picked my brother, or my dad, or a woman, or my best friend. In a way your choice to name people you knew, and not someone you'll never meet, was not a good choice. Sometimes senseless truth in a relationship is not the right move. Many times not knowing is better. Love is a game wether you'd like to admit it or not. Learning how to play the game is the acheivement of love. And many times the game is the fun part.
I get what your saying Now. But at the time I was thinking differently. I wasn't thinking I am going to sleep with them. I was thinking why the heck is he naming people he don't even have a chance with. I was thinking more of people I know and think are attractive. It took me a long time to come up with those names. It took him 5 seconds he named jenna davison ( think thats how u spell it) like hes ever gonna meet her. As far as people I actually could sleep with for all he knows they think I am ugly. His jealousy is suppose to be gone anyways he said he has worked on and dealt with it . So I thought he had. I do feel guilty for hurting his feelings. I will find a way to make it right.
