Mom' and 'Dad' banished by California

I love the quote above. May use it in the future. Thanks for a wonderful laugh and idea.

Grace

 

No problem!
I think we should print them out on t-shirts or something...wear them when the boys come over. You know, in case they didnt "hear" us, at least then we would really get the point across!

Good luck!

 

I don't really care about his eyes at the time but I do care about his heart. If he can stand going through my crap he can certainly take her to a movie. We do the every other time paying thing. I think it is only fair that the boy is not stuck with the movie and food bill every single time. Sometimes they feel weird about it and she tells them "Hey, my mom says it is 2007 and we girls make money too, so we should pay our part." that always gets them to let her pay. Anyhow, that's one mom's opinion. Still trying to raise a teenager and dreading her making any mistakes I ever made.

Grace

 

That is true!!!
Maybe hooking up a lie detector would not be a bad idea after all. Or if some creative person could write a book called, "You want to date my daughter?" as a "book for dummies" on children dating, I'm sure it would hit the NY sellers best list!!!
Just a thought!

 

From the sounds of it, you are doing a great job already. Kudos to your daughter! She's got a good head on her shoulders!

 

My dad and I were just talking about that yesterday. You know, he can beat a lie detector test in a heart beat and he can drink so much liquor and not one person can tell. He was well trained in both the Marines and Army. It was hoot growing up with him. I was always trying to get away with something and he was always right on me. Telling a few secrets, but hey, we used to undue the odometer of the car and take it for a drive when the parents were out of town. When my dad would ask me about the car I would lie "No sir, you stated not touch it."! One day he put a darn twig under the tire and he laughed all the while I was getting grounded for lying and taking the car. Learned alot from him and hopefully it helps me keep my daughter on the right path.

Best debater I ever met in my life. It looks as though I have talked him into moving up this way when his wife dies so maybe he'll join us.

Grace

 

I grew up with out a dad.He was never there for the important stuff just showed up to bring me gifts or sent me stuff in the mail a phone call. Don't get me wrong I get along fine with him now. I had 2 grandpas one that I lived with and one whom I saw all the time. Grandpa that I lived with was my dad I call him grandpa and sometimes daddy cause he was both. He taught me to bait a hook shoot a gun he even played tea party with me. ( which is kinda funny now cause he was a marine) Any how my point being just cause a kid has no dad dosen't mean they have no father figure. Sometimes it works out that someone else is a better father than the one you were born from. Maybe you are in some way a father figure to them? My daughters father is dead. She never knew him she has my grandpa too. ( the other one just recently died 3 weeks ago) She has my brothers who spend lots of time with her. Point being you can't miss what you never had.

 

Well put! My birth dad was really nothing more than a "donor", gave me up for adoption to my step dad when I was 8, was a poor excuse for a human being up to that point. Who the heck gives up an 8 year old for adoption??? Step dad's heart was in the right place but we don't have much of a relationship these days. Mostly a case of too little, too late as far as that relationship goes. Birth dad has tried several times to come back in my life, but he can take a flying leap as far as I'm concerned. It used to bother me that I didn't have a dad like other folks do, but as time has gone on, I've realized that everything happens for a reason, and it's all OK. I am amazed at the relationship DH has with his dad, and blessed that DH is such an awesome dad to our little boy. Maybe all that happened so I could appreciate my DH.

 

Like Angeleyes said, you can't miss what you never had. Neighbors just aren't the same thing. Grandfathers probably. Brothers possibly.

If you've ever dated a boy, but just couldn't seem to make the connection with the opposite sex and left feeling awkward ...that's a psychological - developmental problem. If you're a grown adult and have never dated a member of the opposite sex ...again, there was a developmental problem at some point. If you didn't seek attention from boys as a teen there was very likely something odd about your parental relationships when you were younger. The political correctness of homosexuality has silenced all logical debate on the subject of psychological causes. Being "born" with something precludes errant behavior or development ...and since PC is all about peoples' feelings ...and since we don't want anyone's feelings to be hurt ...the debate has been closed for years. I don't mean to berate anyone because of their sexual preference, but I can't stand political correctness. Yes, having at least one loving parent is better than nothing, but having a highly functional nuclear family is ideal. IMHO homosexuals should only be considered for adoption after all decent, loving heterosexuals have been ruled out. Other than that, to each his own.

Are you serious?