29yo Grandma? I am not surprised>

http://www.qctimes.com/articles/2007/12/02/news/local/doc47523ffc749ce944955510.txt

 

She and Russell’s dad are not together. They are more like friends, she said.
So sad. Children having children.

 

This girl just had a baby and all she can think about is how she can't wait to go shopping and play basketball?

Who does she think should be watching that baby? And where does she think the money to go shopping is going to come from, when she doesn't even have enough for formula?

Geesh Louise...what a stupid kid.

 

Like Mother, like daughter, is what I always say! At least the daughter waited 2 years longer than her Mom did! Geesh, when are people going to learn? I'm sorry, but I still believe in...meeting that right fellow, getting engaged, getting married, then babies! Make sure you've got a good man, before you reproduce with them, so you won't have to get divorced, etc. I followed my Mothers lessons she taught me and did the same thing she did, so hopefully with my values and the ones I'm continuing to share with my daughters, they will do the same as I did.

 

I mean *amn people!! Birth control pills are FREE at social services....just like condoms!!!!!! Stupidity *isses me off!!

 

Sooo.... this newborn's UNCLE is a 1 yr old?

I just don't understand it.

Yeah, and I'd like to rule the universe.

15 and sporting tat's? Good job mom! YOU'RE A WINNER! :roll::roll::roll:

 

somebody sgould to write an article that says babies having babies = pure trash and no moral upbringing.
The eighteen yr old across the street from me has two - by two different fathers. gee and she is on welfare. Another is expecting her second shortly - again two different fathers but hey - gramdma is just doing all she can to help out.
If you are taught how to say no, then you don't get caught.


And not for some harsh words....
too many people are accepting of teenage mothers. Society ought to shun them like they used to, or at least not make it socially acceptable, and then maybe nookie wouldn't be the number one past time for the teens. (TEENS folks not twenty somethings)
if the girls get prego in high school boot them out and send them to the safe school. Don't mainstream them so all their friends can ooo and ahhh about how cute the little baby is. You know, the one that grandma is destined to raise and welfare to support. Oooo maybe the new mommy will go take Johnston County College classes for FREE because she is a trollup. This behavior needs to be discouraged. We can't talk about birth control, VD, or other issues in school but we can have early child developement classes to show how fun and easy it can be to tote a baby around.(dont' tell me those doll are hard - they are nothing to the real thing.)

I know there are other young moms who have taken care of themselves and worked hard and done right by their children and familes - heck I know some, but those are few and far between. I wish these women could go to the school and lecture other girls on how hard it really is. These kids need a reality check and no one can do it better then someone who has been there. REality 101 - that's what we need a class in.

 

Why does that strike you as odd? I'm one year older than my oldest niece. But that's not the half of it. I have a sister that's two years older than me, which means she's a year younger than her niece.

It has nothing to do with any teenager in my family having a baby, though.

 

I see this in my neighborhood EVERYDAY! We got at least 5 teenage girls in our Subdivision alone that are pregnant. When I say "teenagers" I mean 14-16 years of age. And you know I have NEVER seen these girls parents. And what kills me is they go around wearing half belly shirts showing off their bellies. They still roam the streets all hours at night with the little boys following behind them. Just sad that these parents let this go on!

 

It's the whole digression of society as a whole. I don't understand a majority of things that children are allowed to do these days! My girls friends spend the night at my home, if I don't know their parents very, very well (and if they have brothers). Most of the time, all my girls friends spend the night at our home, except for they both have two friends they are allowed to stay with. Why don't parents keep up with their children these days? Why don't they teach them morals? Maybe, I'm old school?? Not, because my best friend is 33 and she is as strict as I am on her 4 kids.

My rules are pretty simple:
1. Make all A's and B's, if you make a C, then you better pull it up by next time. If you make anything below a C, then you don't see daylight until next report card.
2. Keep your room, bathroom, and bonus room clean. No allowance for that either, as I already pay for everything for you.
3. RESPECT all adults. If you have a problem and someone is mean to you, come to me and discuss it and I'll handle it.
4. Manners, you have them so use them.
5. You follow my rules, or find somewhere else to live.

 

And what happens if/when they realize that legally they don't have to follow your rules? Sure you may try to sound all big and bad, "My way or the highway", but that's not reality. You know it, I know it and the kids are finding it out too.

Virtually anything you might choose to punish them is considered abuse. So, what are you going to do about it?

I'm not being facetious, or silly, I'd really like to know.

 

If they think I'm abusing them, then by all means let them call SS and live in a wonderful Foster home. My 13 yo told me one time I was so mean and had too many rules that she was going to call SS, I picked up the phone and handed it to her and went and got the phone book. I said go ahead, but you won't live here anymore. She went to her room and realized the implications of not living with her parents and having all that she is very fortunate to have. Needless to say, I've never heard that again, and now she follows the rules and doesn't get into trouble much (besides the occasional smart mouth).:mrgreen:

I just really believe if you raise your children right, they will understand why they have rules and grow up to raise their children the same way. So far it's worked w/my Parents and me, so hopefully my kids will follow suit.

I think in most cases it's a cycle they are repeating from their parents.

 

Ok, now what would have happened if she had taken the phone from you and started dialing? Sure, it's a threat to them to live in a foster home, but it's also a threat to you to do some jail time. You were just lucky she blinked before you did.

 

So, Clif, what do you suggest parents do? I have similar rules at my house. I was respectful and obedient to my parents and I expect nothing less from my own child. That's a lot of what is wrong in this country today, no repect for anyone from a lot of these kids. It starts at home.

 

I never suggested I had a solution. Just pointing out the problem. I will go one further than devilock76 and say it's actually Al Gore's fault, since he "took the initiative in creating the Internet". In my opinion, that's where the problem ultimately lies.

Prior to that, kids heard all those rules (yes, they were the same ones I gave my kids) and didn't know any better. Now, thanks to global communication and easily accessed information, the kids are finding out that the parents' threats are empty.

The kids are finding out that "the health department" really doesn't care whether or not they make their beds and put their clothes in the hamper. They are also finding out that, if it does get to the point where "the health department" does care, it'll be the parents who will be punished.

The kids are finding out that a call to Child Welfare will bring much more down on the parents than it will to them. They also know that, given a "he said, she said" situation, CWS will be more inclined to believe the child.

It used to be easy to keep the kids intimidated and ignorant, but no longer. Even if we take their Internet away, their school friends will keep them up to date on their civil rights. And that's why we have kids who now rule the household where the parents live in fear of them.

 

Children today are innundated with images that shove sexuality down their throats - ah,... no pun intended - and not that it is all bad, in moderation, and that it be introduced at the right ages, and content along with some strong and moral lessons from home.
I can't and I don't want to censor movies or TV.
I don't want to censor music or video games.
BUT Parents are not doing their jobs.
When mine was young I watched and made it my business to know what she was listening, seeing and doing. I can't know everything all the time - but a watchful eye is a good deterent to a kid. I was watched when I was a kid too. Therefore, I didn't screw up when I lived at home with mom and dad.
When kids are left to their own devices - they usually mess up.

EXAMPLE - and ALL TRUE
There is a butt head parent who took off and went to Vegas over Thanksgiving Holiday and left her 16 yr. old daughter home alone. This lame mother, allowed her daughter to have teenage males as over night visitors in her home with her daughter while she and her hubby and the other kids were gone. She, in fact begged another high school boy –( not her daughters boyfriend, (who parents refused to allow him to stay over there - rightfully so!)) - to come over and stay with her daughter so the girl would not be scared.
Can you believe this junk? Heck this woman may even post on here and I don't care. Trust me when I say its someone right here in our own neighborhood and this is how she is raising her daughter. Sounds like a ho-in-training if I ever heard of one. Mother even goes to the grand extent of buying presents for boys that her daughter likes. Things like eighty dollar sneakers and such. She is aware her daughter is sexually active.
Can we blame the kid when she turns up prego? I think her half baked mother has a lot to do with it. This loose moraled idiot will wonder why her poor innocent daughter got taken advantage of when she ends up prego and never see the hand she had in it. Sad very sad.

 

I don't know how I'd be facing jail time, for what grounding them off the phone and internet. I hardly call that abuse, because they are luxuries in the first place. I don't hit my children (I have given them spanking when they needed it) and I don't deprive them of their basic needs, so it's not abuse.

 

Weren't we just wondering the other day what kind of mother would go online and pose as a teenager on MySpace to avenge her daughter's pride?

 

I agree with that statement Clif, but I also feel that if a parent is in fear of their own child, then that parent doesn't know how to be a parent in the first place.

Yes, I called my daughters bluff, but even if she had called the SS office, then so be it. I'd rather have her living elsewhere, then not following my rules of the house. After about a month of living elsewhere, she'd realize how good she had it at home and recant that lie.

 

The only civil rights my children are entitled to is shelter, food, hygene and education. Aside from that, anything else they get is extra.

And SB, I've done it too.....held the phone out and begged my DD to call DSS.

Parents need to get a grip.