My heart just aches.....

:cry:I don't know if we havea thread anywhere about this already and I just don't have the heart to look......What do you all think about this "Safe-haven" place in NE that people can just leave their kids there? :cry: I can almost understand an infant being left, even though I couldn't do it and I don't like it. But people are leaving ALL ages there! I'm sure you all have seen it or heard about it. I just cannot even imagine what these little kids that are 9, 10, 11, and older must be thinking cause they are old enough to wonder and be concerned why their parents don't want them......:cry: I have kids 10 to 15 and they may get aggravating and drive me crazy but I could NEVER take them and leave them. Oh, I know, I know.....I don't know the position the parents may be in and I don't know the situation and it may be safer for the child. But STILL.....It is too much for me to understand :cry::cry::cry:

 

I recently saw something about this on tv. That law wasn't passed there so people could take advantage of it and drop off their unwanted kids, it was intended for unwanted babies... so they (hopefully) wouldn't be left to die in garbage cans, etc. :cry: But now that some people are abusing it (people are actually going there from other states!), they're trying to change it to allow it only for infants up to 3 days old. That worries me too because what if some teen or drug addicted mother decides she can't deal with her 2 week old newborn that cries as much as a 2 day old does, what happens to that baby? I wish they would restrict it, to keep morons from taking advantage of it, but lengthen the time frame to more than just 3 days. :neutral:

 

I would love to slap the you know what out of these people!
I can understand having the safe haven for newborns, and I agree with you ready, that it should be extended from 3 days.
But these people that are dropping off older kids, just because they can't handle it anymore. If you can't handle it you should not have had them.
I know from personal experience that you don't know how precious your babies are until they are gone.
What until one of these stupid beotches has to bury their baby, then maybe they will understand.:evil::evil:

Sorry....rant over.

 

as sad as it is, and it is very sad. I would much rather be sad about them being dropped off as opposed to killed, abused, tortured, thrown in a dumpster.....

unfortunately these places exist, because there is a need for them. There are 'safe havens' around here too. there is one right off of Hillsborough Street, across for Charlie Goodnights.

 

Europe has been doing this for years. The problem with the babies is that if someone wants to adopt him or her one has to find the natural parent(s) to sign papers. I am unsure of the details of what the laws are here but it can be very discouraging to both child and adults wanting to adopt.

I don't think that the parents who dropped their teenage son off because they could no longer handle his attitude and he follows no rules should not have the option of dropping him off at the same place. Their are other routes for children like him.

Sherry

 

I agree with KellBell, I would rather be sad hearing about the kids being left at a safe place rather than the something dreadful. But it is pretty darn depressing knowing that these places are needed.

 

I agree too.......It's like a movie in my head......I keep seeing a child confused and dazed because their mom or dad doesn't want them and it hurts me sooo bad:cry::cry: They have to be so sad and devastated and think that it is their fault. They have so many questions....and no answers. I'm not talking as much about the ones who are abused and are probably feeling safer, I'm talking about the ones who their parents just gave up. I am REALLY having an issue with this. :cry::cry: I sereiously may need to talk to a professional about this. :cry: It makes me want to go home and get the kids out of school and hold them all day. :grouphug: I can't do that cause God KNOWS they need school!! LOL

Ok......I really need to go and get a grip now......:cry:

 

Honestly, as heartbreaking as it is, the kids may be better off than being forced to stay with a parent that obviously doesn't want them.

 

it's so easy to let sad things like this consume you.....

 

i'd rather see them deal with the hurt of a parent dropping them off and leaving them safe then killing them. It happens everyday and we may never hear of it. Parents kill their kids and kids kill their parents.
Dropping them off somewhere safe is ok by me. Maybe it's the child that has pushed all the buttons, emotionally or physically, or a parents with an addiction, emotional problem, or financial crisis.
Some kids are just rotten as are some parents. It is not a bad thing to walk away before violence on anyones part.. or neglect for that matter.
Most of us here would give our child to a stranger in a time of crisis.. if we were starving and the stranger had food....you would let the stranger take the child so the he might live whereas our own future was shakey at best..... See how that works??

 

I know what you mean. Even though we have a full house of kids already, (5 and two dogs), I sometimes think that if we won the lottery, we would have to have a huge house built so we can adopt a ton of kids and dogs.

 

Why is this lady smiling for a picture?!?!?

This just *isses me off to no end!!!!!:x:x


http://www.wral.com/news/national_world/national/story/3957049/

 

Some people aren't leaving their older kids and teens because they can't afford to take care of them, but because their kids are giving them a hard time. I'm sorry but you can not change your mind about being a parent when the road gets rough. Being a parent WILL be like being on a road that has lots of bumps. Some parents might even encounter big potholes in the road they're on. BUT, we can't simply abandon our kids at a hospital if the parent road is bumpier than we want it to be. :neutral:

 

:iagree: It's just so sad. Maybe teens need more of "tough love". Kids are alot different then when we were growing up. I guess alot of that comes from what is available to them nowadays and the busyness of our lives leaving too little time for family...........And that "percent" of parents that just don't care....I feel sorry for these kids. I really do. Now the raod they'll haul will be alot tougher. The families are more than likely dysfunctional and they need help. But I think some families are afraid to get the help they may need. Everything is "politically correct" and so scrutinized that people are afraid to do anything for fear of losing their family unit all together. Am I making sense?

 

I agree, infants do not hold the market on being unwanted or abused because of it. How often do we hear stories about a malnourished or abused/tortured teen being discovered? Pretty often.

 

it makes my stomach hurt. :cry:

 

c u next tuesday.

:lol:

I hope that cat doesn't act up, do they have a safe haven for fur babies in Nebraska?

 

Same here, I think it is because we have kids around those ages and could never fathom doing such a thing to another human being, let alone one of our children.

 

thats exactly it. I mean mine drive me insane at times. I tried to think of something they could possibly do that would me make me drop them off.


Couldn't come up with a thing.

 

:iagree: I feel the exact same way.