Last night coming home from work at 11pm I found my cat Nicki dead in front of my house in the road. This is my 8 year daughters cat. I'm having a hard time today cause I don't really know what to tell her. The cat was not a outside cat, she wanted to be..but she was not. Two years ago she got out and got prego and almost died having the kittens, had a C-section and only one baby lived and that is Muchkin (I have him as well). She was fixed after that. The other thing is it's my mom that let her out when she came over last night to put my daughter to bed. I haven't even told my mom yet what happend. Still dealing with it myself. I have told her and everyone else, you got to watch her cause she will try and go outside..but you can catch her if she runs out cause she wasn't fast. I guess last nights she was. This is the second time I have lost a cat on that road. First time my fault for letting the cat out, he was a kitten. This time it was just a big ol mistake..and not a easy one to explain to my daughter cause I know she will blame my mom for it. I didn't tell her this morning cause I didn't think it was a good idea to tell her before getting on the bus. My roommate thinks I should just say she ran away, but I think my daughter would know better. I don't want to lie..but I worry about the blaming thing on why she was out to begin with. So today I have to deal with the burying her and I don't want to at all. I don't deal with this stuff well at all. Well, I guess I'm just asking for good thoughts my way cause today I need them. All my animals in my house are like fur kids to me..I love them all. I will miss her a lot she was a great kitty. Sheri
oob, my thoughts and prayers go out to you. My furbabies are my kids too. We recently lost our guinea pig of 5 years and we all cried together for weeks. I am sending good energy your way.
Oh no ... that's one of my biggest fears, one of my 'kids' getting hit by a car. The neighbors all let their dogs play in their front yards and in the street, but I wont let mine out of the house or fenced in backyard ... all it takes is that one split second. I was once that driver .. I killed a puppy ... and I STILL get sick when I think about it. I dont think your daughter needs to know that it was your mother who let the cat out. The cat got out ... keep that part vague. Dont lay blame. Mistakes happen ... but kids cant always relate to that.
Well my daughter already knows my mom let her out by accident, my roommate told me that already cause she was here. She said my mom told her that she would come back when she was ready. She said my daughter was already upset that the cat got out and that she had to go and get her..my mom told her not to worry..now my mom will be upset cause well she didn't go and get her. I'm not upset at my mom, I'm worried what my daughter would think..I'm thinking not even telling her that it happend that night, and let her blame me instead of my mom. I just don't know yet. Sheri
That's awful, I am so sorry to hear it. I have no advice for you with your daughter, my son still thinks our last dog just died, not that I had to have her put to sleep. Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. You will get through this, and so will she. Take care. :grouphug:
Thanks for the hug... I just told my mom and she said she didn't see her go out when she let the dogs out cause she didn't have the light on outside..but it doesn't matter anyways could have happend to any of us. She was pretty upset about it. Cause, she knows how my daughter is..but I think your right about the honesty isn't always the best thing..I will think of something. I won't tell her till tomorrow anyways. Got to close again tonight so she will be asleep when I get home. Sheri
we all try to raise kids that honesty is the best answer and with her knowing how the cat got out I would let her know the truth and try the comforting thought that its in heaven and looking down upon her. At some point all kids have to deal with the death of someone or something they love... unfortunately. Sorry to hear about that. Be honest in my opinion, which doesn't really mean squat.
How terrible. I am so sorry! One time my sister went to Greece and asked me watch her cat for a year!! It was a Siamese. I knew it was safer inside, but she cried and cried and cried and wanted out and so finally I a gave in and let it out. I found it dead a few hours later, ON my sisters birthday! The guilt I still live with 10 years later is horrible. I keep that kitties cat bed in my attic to remind myself that sometimes we all make bad decisions. I hope your daughter is ok... I would tell her the truth because if she finds out later you lied, it will affect her trust in you. But tell her Grandma is upset too and not to blame her, we ALL make mistakes. Again, I am sooo sorry.
Yeah, I wasn't saying to necessarily lie to the child, just an airbrushed version. Accidents happen. One of my cats is a Houdini and she's been out for hours before I discovered she was missing. She doesn't roam far, but I live in fear she will find the road. It's DS's cat and he would be devastated.
oh I know what you mean.. She was a houdini as well..but I could always get her back in when she got out. Man this just stinks! Sheri
Aww, thats a tough situation all around for all of you, but I'm sure you'll make the best decision when you have to tell her. :grouphug:
