Sooooo.............. Has anyone else here ever really LOST it on them and like "went off" off like something out of another world (no hitting or beating) and then went in another room and cracked up at your own silly self?? And on a more serious note, I need a little guidance. My husband is awesome Dad. But when I see him having to STAND DOWN, if you know what I mean, with our oldest son, mainly for mouth an attitude issues, I have a problem getting in the middle sometimes..... Now he has never hit him.....yet (although we'd like to CRACK him at times), but he has "body slammed" him on the floor. Not "hard hard" but enough to let our son know who is boss and that anytime he thinks he is grown enough to act this way, to be prepared to be brought down a peg or 2. I know teens are gonna try to see how far they can go and we have real good kids. But nevertheless, they are kids and will try it. So my question is, if I feel the need to get into the middle of, do I just kind of go outside and take a walk and let Dad handle it (he won't kill him, I promise)?
Barring abuse I'd stay out of it. If you step in, to me it's as if you're siding with the son. Talking about laughing after going off, one the last times my mom whipped me with a belt was one of these instances. She told me to put my hands on the bed and she began lashing away at me with the belt. I had my pants on so she could tell it wasn't bothering me. She started laughing and said "you want some more?". I don't recall what I said but then we both cracked up. Oh well.
it is very, very hard to fight the motherly instinct to swoop in and save the day....but if your teenager is as hard headed as my twin pre-teens....body slamming needs to be done from time to time. :mrgreen:
When mine were growing up I was the disciplinarian and dad was the fun guy. Dad would stand by whatever were my decisions but would try at a later time to explain to the kids why I did what I did to be sure they understood the whole situation. I suppose I'd have to say that I used psychology more than physical means to get my point across. example - When you confront a teenager and you pretty much know that the story you are hearing has some false-hoods in it and they are attempting to ease out without much discipline. I would simple make it clear that what they did was wrong and did deserve some punishment. I would say that you know that honesty is always the best way to go because if you are lieing and found out later that the punishment for lieing is worse. I would also be sure to say "You know you and I both know that you can lie to me because after all I'm just your momma but always know that the Good Lord knows your lieing because He knows everything." Usually within a short amount of time I would get a full confession.
"If you don't know how to get in line, I'll get you in line" LMAO!!! :lol: That was awesome, more kids need whoppings.
i got whoopd alot more than my bro and sis and i am the only normal one! yes.....i know that is up for debate.
It depends on the age of the child, the severity of the problem, the child's personality,etc. as to the proper method of punishment. The trick is to not let it get to that physical level tho. The first lip the parent gets, they need to handle it immediately, and with overwhelming punishment of whatever form you choose (taking away cell phone, allowance, going out, etc). Dont get caught up in the back and forth bickering. Dont be wishy-washy on anything. Be clear, and unwavering on your decisions. It sounds funny, but seriously, think about how you interact with a dog. When the dog poos on the floor, you dont go over and say " Well, we'd better work on that, etc" You say "NO!". The dog remembers that clearly. Kids are the same, they want things to be crystal clear. Kids dont want "we'll see about you doing X tonight." They'd rather you just say yes or no. Of course they are going to test the boundaries, but they wont keep testing them if they know they "get" less out of continuing to argue, or get punished.
Yep, my Mom was pretty quick to swat your behind (I"m not talking about beating or child abuse here folks) and as a result, we knew she meant business! I absolutely was not "afraid" of my Mom, but I did respect her. I remember smarting off to her once when I was about 16 and got my face slapped for it. I deserved it, and I never did it again.
My mom was the disciplinarian in our house. She was on the front porch one time watering the flowers. I go and put on a Halloween mask and jump out onto the porch to scare her. So here I went jumping onto the porch........."Rarrrrrrrrrr!". Without saying a word or hesitating she swung with her right hand slapping on the left side of my face with the mask still on, knocking me silly. I laugh about that crap now. Now.
LOLOL Now I have done that one myself......LOL:lol: I got it good when I was a kid too. My mom did not care who was around either......My husband says if he needs a good whooping, then he needs one. Same goes for my younger son, 13, and "miss thang", 11. Me thinks, "miss THANG" and I is gonna :boxing: when she gets a little older. Thanks for all the input. I'll be taking alot of walks...LOLOLOL Anyone live near White Memorial Church Road? I'll stop by..................LOL
agree 100%. Your instinct will be to "save the day" as Kell said but don't. It will undermine Dad's authority in your son's eyes. He'll lose that role and know he can get away w/ more next time. YOu have to be firm the first time. And yes, we've had many teenage fights in this home. Urghh. We currently have 3 teenagers. Most part, good kids. But there are days I think I'd rather have 3 dogs--LOL. Or better yet, roll the eyes back at them that they're rolling at me. Can't stand the stupid eye rolling and the sassy attitude. Defintely don't get in between if your husbnad is discipling your son. It will be okay. And though as parents we may want to cave at times(I'm horrible at this one), we need to remain firm so the lesson is learned. Take care, stephanie--mom to 7
YEah! Here is the scenario: "So, hey Kell Bell!! How are ya? Taking a walk, gettin some air....husband is beating the T-TOTAL #$#^#^$ out of our son.....how's your day going?" :lol::lol::jester::mrgreen:
