What do you think......parents?

ok, as most of you know, I have twin 12yr old boys. They'll be 13 in August. Rising 7th graders next year. Do you think they are old enough to take a girl to the movies? or meet her there? I would take them and watch the movie with them (and sit behind them a few rows and have binoculars of course 8)). Are they old enough for that? Would they ask their 'girlfriends' to meet us there and then I take them home? or do I make sure they (the girls) have their own transportation there and back, meet them out front, wait with them till their ride comes etc?

alright.....let me know what you think. I haven't mentioned it to them, it's merely in the thought process right now.

 

When I was in the 7th grade I used to meet girls at the movies. They had their own transportation to and from as did I. My mom was a little uncomfortable with it when she found out they were 8th grade girls, but it was all good at the time.

 

Fast forward a couple of decades and our oldest boy is in the same situation with the same general outcome less the older girls. The younger son waited an extra year before we went that route with him.

 

so Wayne was that a 'yes, it'll be ok' or a "no, they're too young"? I love you dearly....but you confuse me. :mrgreen:

 

Just how were the silent movies back then?

 

It was a yes, it worked for me and my older son, and a little too soon for the younger son. Everyone is different so I cannot say for your sweet children .... :mrgreen:

The only thing I can say for sure is they are lucky to have a mom who is thinking about them as individuals.

 

They were not silent as you could hear the fire crackling as we made shadow movies. The dinosaurs would provide a background noise too.

 

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that's why I love you so! thanks for the clarification. :cheers:

 

Group outings only at that age with some adult guidance and supervision.

 

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Both my kids had to be in group situations at that age. I think each parent has to decide for them selves because they know their children best. I just felt that for the age, just becoming a teenager, it was best to keep them in groups until they matured a big more.

 

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There will be plenty of time for them to start their "dating". I'm thinking that there are enough unsupervised teens at White Oak, with a lot of parents slowing to 5 or 10 mph, opening the doors, kicking them out, and believing their children will actually go into the theatre. I see quite a few wait out their parents, and hoof it towards other stores at White Oak.

 

They can't *date* until they are 30 :boxing:



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No advice, but a funny story:

When I was in 7th grade there was this girl I liked a lot. We lived in a very small town that had one very small movie theater. One Friday she asked me if I'd like to go to the movies with her to see the Saturday matinee. I was so excited and got dressed up to look as cool as I could, even swiped some of the old man's shaving lotion (which burned the hell out of my face). Back then putting your arm around a girl in the movies was the ultimate test of manhood, and I knew for sure that I'd "score".

Anyway, we meet at the movies and I pay for both of us when we go in. Before we go in the theater we roll over to the refreshment counter to get some popcorn. When the older man behind the counter hands her the popcorn she looks in the box, looks back at the guy, rolls her eyes, and in a sarcastic tone says "Could we pleeeaaassseee have some more butter?" This really shocked me because kids didn't usually talk back to grown-ups like that back then, but the guy behind the counter looks at her, takes the box, and puts some more psuedo-butter in it. I was really surprised by all of this and as we walked into the theater I told her so. She smiled and said "Oh don't worry, that's just my dad. He owns the place" If you listen closely you can still hear the hissing sound of my deflated dreams.

In retrospect, the funniest part was that about twenty minutes into the flick her old man rolls up on us with his flashlight. He turns it on in my face and says "Carol, are you two okay?" Having a teenage daughter now, I can bet that she was even more horrifed than I was :lol:

 

Priceless!! :lol::lol::lol:

 

I would agree with the group situation, and not just the two brothers together, cause we all know what kind of trouble siblings can get into together! I mean like, a real group with a few other kids there. But I'd say the age is fine.

My 3rd grade son has a huge crush on this girl in his class, and told me he wanted to call her, so he got his bff in school to get him her number. Well I told him he couldn't do that, she'd have to give him her number if he wanted to call her. So she found out and said if he wanted to call her, to call her, so he did! I couldn't believe that my 9 yo son was calling a girl! (I was outside when he called, so was unaware of this at the time) He then came outside and said "Mom, I just called ------". My husband and I were concerned, thinking it was very young to be calling a girl, and what would her parents think? Well about 20 minutes later my son went to the store with my husband, and who was there but the girl with her mother! My hubby apologized for our son calling, but the mother was very cool about it and said oh, no big deal, it's perfectly fine. I would have never called a boy at 9 yo!!! He's very cool about it all, she even came to our memorial day party, he even writes her love notes and lets us see them!!! :mrgreen: It's cute now, but if he's doing this at 9, what's he going to be like at a teenager? I'm scared......

 

There will be 5 of us all together, so that's a group, right? :mrgreen:

and no where in my question did I ask if they could "date"! Them girls would be paying their own way and it would be understood with their parents before they were dropped off..... jeez people.....focus!

 

My two cents...

Mini Me is 13 going on 30. She wants me to take her to the theatre and drop her off for a "group" outing/date, or whatever you want to call it. I told her I'd be glad to, and I'd sit in the back of the theatre and watch the movie, and she didn't like that idea.

She thinks I should trust her enough to either go see another movie, or go to Target and walk around. She's probably right, but she's my baby, and she's beautiful, and I know how 13 year old boys think....

I'm still pondering it, so you let me know what you decide, lol....

 

Dropping them off is 100% out of the question. period. end of story.

And you are right about what 13 year old boys are thinking....I have 2. :?

 

Ah...the times be a changing......when I was growing up (even younger than 13) it was nothing to be dropped off at the Skate Ranch, or the Mall, or the Water Slide that used to be on 401. Course there were usually a bunch of us neighborhood kids going (mixed group of boys and girls), and you can imagine how it was at the Skate Ranch on a Friday or Saturday night, back in the early to mid 80's.


But we also lived with the thought that our parents would beat us within an inch of our life if we screwed up in anyway shape, form, or fashion.


Craig