Fayetteville Family's Murders-Suicide

http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/6334505/

Absolutely shocking. You would never think that such an average looking family would have this happen to them. From what law officials said, they lived in an affluent neighborhood, as well. What drives someone to do this is beyond me.

 

I saw this as well, very sad indeed. Can't help think that it might be economy or financially related? :cry:

 

It would be a shame if it were about money. It's a shame...regardless.

Lots of people in financial straits, however if you have the love of family or friends, that's your greatest possession. I heard a preacher at church speaking on a topic that could be aligned with those who have money issues. He said that God often strengthens up by leading us into wildernesses. I guess like He did Moses and the Israelites. I think we do gain wisdom about ourselves and what is important in tough times if we perservere.

 

He was in the real estate business, it might have been money related. Sad and selfish.

 

Yeah, its one thing to feel so helpless to take your own life, but why take your whole family too?

 

Suicide is such a selfish act.
My cousin committed suicide last week. Her son died in a house fire on July 4th in Lillington. It was all over the news. She had been emotional destroyed by it. She ended up taking her own life. The saddest thing is she still had a son that was alive. Now due to her selfishness, he has nobody. I just don't understand it!

 

oh my, I'm so sorry for you loss....:cry:

 

A permanent solution for a temporary problem....very sad!

 

I'll never understand people. :cry::cry::cry:

 

I'm sorry for your loss and for her son's loss.

None of us can truly know the despair that others may feel, and the extent to the measures they will take to not feel the pain of that despair.

When someone is hurting that badly, and is under that much stress, it's not likely that they will be fully thinking about the impacts of their choices on others.

Liken the pain to an oncoming train, on a track where you can't seem to find an exit. Looming larger and larger, until it blocks out awareness of anything else. And then, the tipping point is reached. A choice is made to ease one's pain, be it drugs, alcohol, or suicide.

I pray that you can forgive her at some point in time. Please keep a close watch on her son.

And, to all of us...if anyone expresses any ideation of suicide, take it seriously and get them some help.

It's almost impossible to see the support mechanisms one has, in times of pain of this magnitude. It's even more difficult to reach out to access it, thus the supporters have to reach out to help, sometimes without being asked.

Hug your family today. Let them kinow you love them, and not the material things we sometimes attribute as being important.

 

this is the saddest thing of late. How could something be so bad that you would shoot and kill your children? Who goes first? I don't understand. I just don't get it.....it shakes me to my soul.

 

I'm sure a lot of folks have heard that 'an idle mind is the devil's workship' and I guess that is true. We all probably know of those who have lost loved ones and went back to work, working harder than they ever did before. Staying busy and getting involved in what they could. While time can dull the grief a bit for most, it seems that those who put their shoulders to the wheel and get back to work are the ones that find a way to push forward. I guess the best thing you can do for a friend or family member who has suffered a loss is to try to help keep them busy as much as possible.

As for this family, I can't see how a parent feels such desperation to kill his own flesh and blood.

Found this link to the Fayetteville Observer:

http://www.fayobserver.com/Articles/2009/11/03/948858

 

Jester, your presumption is that the person was in his right mind could not do this. And, I think you are right. When this tragedy happened, the killer was not in his right mind.

More people are closer to this step than you might think. Lost careers, foreclosed homes, loss of status are just a few examples of stressors. And, we all have different limits on how much we can take.

People who perceive they have lost all, don't (can't) realize that they have much to lose.

When the pain is unbearable, logic does not exist.

 

There is no excuse for killing children, especially your own. Period.

 

I'm not trying to excuse it.

Unless and until another has walked on that path, he has no way to comprehend the thought process behind it.

 

I won't deny that something must have been wrong. I will not in any way agree that his pressures justified killing his kids. There are lots of people in bad situations right now that aren't killing their kids. To write it off as 'he must have been in a lot of pain' is putting a dangerous spin on it.

 

:iagree:

 

:iagree: Again!

 

In both expressions, either "justified" or "write it off", your sentiment comes across, to me, as a repeat of your "no excuse post" to which I replied that there was no attempt to excuse it.

Excusing it and understanding it, for me are two different things. WHen you can approach it form a POV of personal experience, as well as counselling others who havegone down a part of that pathway, perhaps you'd have a better understanding of it.

Still not excusing it.

 

I guess really what I was saying is it's scary to think that a loving father for so many years (by those accounts thus far) could carry out such an act. I would say he was not in his right mind, as well. That should be obvious. Perhaps there was some pyschological issues from his past like the guy in Clayton that killed his daughter and then decapitated her or maybe it was something else. I don't even really want to ponder because as you have said, we do not know the motives just yet. Perhaps we will not ever find out exactly why.