Hubby and I lived together for 5 years prior to getting married. We were babies...foolish babies but madly in love and still are 15 years later. His quirks are what makes me comfortable. Call me weird but his snoring is like a lullaby for the most part. It lets me know he's there. And then sometimes not so much, especially when his breath stinks and we're face to face.:lol: Now that I have kids, a girl especially... I would want her to wait until she's married but, I know you can't control them once they get to a certain age...my parents couldn't control me. I just have to hope that all the work I'm doing now makes them smart and responsible adults.
Uhhh.... That is so not true Seabee... I hope you are joking...I learn a lot from the ladies here... you smokin' crack? :lol: You know I'm not crazy all the time, but I do think my husband has a lot of patience with me. I'm not the easiest gal to live with.
Hey, hey now. I love my husband dearly (even when he farts) and we have a wonderful relationship. Been together for 26 years, married for 21 next month and I would not change a thing. He is my honey and I would do anything in this world for him.
:hurray: See, I told you Seabee.... :jester: And I love my husband even when he farts too except when he does it right in front of me on purpose and doesn't warn me :lol:
:iagree: Or when he does it in the store and walks away from me and leaving people to think I did it.
I agree with Jen. I have two daughters and would want to set an example for them should I take the plunge again. I too have lived with somebody before marriage, and it felt like something that was held over my head with any fight we had - like I had to pass some test before being worthy of being married to. Statistically, couples that live together before marriage are twice as likely to divorce than couples that marry and then live together. The phrase "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" exists for a reason. I want to be with somebody who has long term plans of loving and cherishing me, not somebody who likes to pay half the mortgage/rent and be provided other services free of charge while they decide if they want to make it more permanent. I used to think that the one year period for a seperation before the actual divorce was necessary, now I think that mandatory premarital counseling could do away with the need for quite a few divorces.
My best friend is going through this and I am so frustrated for her. I also didn't mention that now that I have a child if I was ever in the position where I thought about marrying again I wouldn't live with someone before marriage. So actually maybe I'm against the living together thing :lol:
You are against it and I safely assume you always have been... that would go against your inner beliefs wouldn't it??? 8)8)8) Not that I'm that aware of those inner beliefs... :cheers: Its a calculated guess.