I need to talk to someone about dealing with a young cousin of mine in Florida who may be viewing porn. And not your typical porn, but VERY awful stuff. And I know it is ALL awful but this is pretty sick. And there is a worry that it could affect the child's sexuality in the future. Please......no flame fest....PM me if you need to. The child's mother and I are close and this is VERY hard for the family. Thanks in advance.
Obviously if it's illegal you contact the authorities. Otherwise, I'm sure if you look at resources dealing with things like porn addiction, etc. they may be able to help or point you in the right direction.
I personally have gone through the Pornaholics Anonymous 12 stroke plan to deal with my addiction. It produced little success.
depends upon age of the child. Should be taken seriously as obviously it is. Also depends upon if the child has other mental issues that may be distorting judgement. I have had friends go through this sort of thing and all I can say is give your cousin as much support as she needs in dealing w/ her child. Therapy will most likely be needed if it is on the more "sick" side. Sorry you're going through this. I can only imagine and know from extended family, it can happen to anyone. Seek therapy FIRST. Stephanie--mom to 7
Just curious how they define 'typical' porn and 'awful' porn. I remember back when I was barely 18 going with some friends to a drive in that would show porn on weekend. Went twice actually. First time the movie I thought was 'awful' it was Super vixens. The second time was I thought it was quite 'humorous'. It was the musical x rated version of 'Alice in Wonderland'. Sad to say Porn is too readily available online for kids. Heck if you watch the news they are taking pics of themselves naked and sending it to each other. YIKES :ack:
Remember I am not the OP. I would think typical would be something a husband and wife might watch at times. I would think awful would be gay (which some would think awful or different) or some kind of fetish. Just my thoughts. As for your last sentence.....that's why I have software monitoring and a parent can limit the time and sites kids can get on. Sherry Disclaimer: I am not into porn nor have I ever been. tee hee.....still cannot get to the smiley face without opening another box.
I would think it'd be like soft vs hard porn. Sex between humans - or could involve animals - :ack: sex that involves violence, s&m, the list goes on.... there's all kinds of crap out there :evil:
Personally it makes me ill, but I am not wired that way. That said if it floats your boat I have no problem with any kind of porn between two, or more, consenting adults.
Rocky, this is an example of bad porn! http://www.flickr.com/photos/suckapants/sets/72157623514230458/
Sick porn is Child Pornography and Bestiality. Anything else is between the those that do it, and those that like it. So long as all parties involved are legally consenting.
For a child it might be of course I would think any kind of porn would be for a child. Nice try butt head. Sherry
How do you fix it? You counter extreme with extreme. Does the kid have a computer is his own room? If so, there's your problem. If he is sneaking it from the family computer, there's two recourses: Apply strong parental controls using software or ultimately, pull the internet completely from the house. Better that than a messed up kid. The kid needs counseling and quick. I wouldn't be surprised to see a teen boy to be sneaking a peek here or there of more 'normal' boy fascinations. Heck, one or two boys brought a magazine to school ever so often when I was in middle school. But as already stated, its so readily available on the internet. Even grown men have problems with it and it could possibly become considered 'normal' behavior in a child's mind. I'd be very concerned that he'd wind up on one of those registries as an adult that a parent would never want to see their child on. First and foremost though, I'd say discontinue internet service if that's what it takes.
This child needs to immediately get into counseling with someone who is experienced in treating this type of behavior. The only way this can go is from bad to worse. A simple google search will lead to research that says the more someone especially a child views online porn, the more intense the addiction that will ultimately lead to the worst types that have been discussed here. Additionally, young children viewing porn can have MAJOR developmental issues- how they view sex/sexuality, relationships, potential development of sexual addiction as they get older, potential for development into rape or molestation (either victim or perpetrator) as they try to act out what they are seeing. The last thing you want to have happen to this child is any of the above or to end up on the sexual offender list even as a child. Allowing computer use even with parental controls and blocking software is a joke- just look at google images or UTube and you get an eyeful and this is not always blocked.
