I hate to say this but have you tried to let her cry it out. Sometimes if you set a pattern by constantly rescuing your crying baby you can be setting them up to depend on you to much. I know its hard but super nanny had great tips for babies and children who had sleep issues check out her website twitch
Crying it out is old-school, and can be deadly. Of course the child is trained, they all are (I mean we (moms) all are!!).
No I won't let her cry it out. I feel like she is a baby and she needs to feel as safe and loved as she can. I was the same way with my son and he was sleeping through the night when he was 4 months old. He is now 6 and is very independent. It would break my heart to listen to her scream and not go to her. I would keep going with out sleep before I did this.
Thanks everyone for the suggestions and the support. It is nice just to know I am not the only one going through this. We try something different every night hoping to find something that works. And I and waiting to get the book Cleo suggested. I am hopeful that provides some more light on what to do. I do sleep during the day when she takes her naps. I think that is the only way I am able to keep my sanity. It has been hard since school has been out and my son is here. But I turn the tv on for him and hope he doesn't wake me up a million times. He is very understanding for a 6 year old. Again thanks and I will keep everyone posted especially if I find something that works.
Good luck Jen, my youngest did not sleep through the night until she was over a year old. I know how you feel. The tips in that book helped me, and I hope it helps you as well.
The book that Cleo suggested helped me with my youngest (now 4 1/2). With her, though, what helped most of all, was moving in a room with her sister. She didn't (and still doesn't) want to be left alone in a room,esp in the dark (a nightlight was still too dark). I was putting off moving her in with her sister because I was afraid she would wake her up. I didn't need to worry-that didn't happen til she learned to shake her and say "wake up", which is a totally different type of problem! LOL A noise machine really helped too. They sell them at BabiesRUs (it's a DEX machine). She still has trouble sleeping without it. It really helps her cycle back into sleep when she wakes up instead of crying and waking all the way up. It also helps because my house is small and household noises would wake her up and the noise machine blocks that. When I go to bed, I switch it so that it shuts itself off after a while.
I didnt mean not check on them to make sure there okay. Just don't huver. Assure them, pat them, and love them. Just don't pick them up this assures the fact to them that if they cry you will come and rescue them from the crib. I know for a fact its hard my daughter didn't ever sleep through the night until she was 14 months old. What happened was one night she must have cried all night, and I was so exhausted from working two jobs that I didn't wake up myself the next morning her face was swollen and her little eyes were red. I felt horrible but when I laid her down the next night she went right to sleep and I never had any more problems. You know your baby and her cries every mother does so you should know I want attention right now cry. Check out super nanny web site you might be suprised at the ideas she has twitch
Don't feel bad for making that suggestion..I did it with my daughter and it took one night as well and not even the whole night. If she woke up in the middle of the night I would go in there and check on her, but would not pick her up..just rub her arms ect really soft. My daughter is very independent and she is 8, and never had a hard time putting her to bed or making sure she stayed in there. I have been very lucky! It's not for everyone to do it that way and it may not work for everyone either. But, I tried and it worked for me. Sheri
Crying it out works for some and not others. I tried it a couple times with DS, but he would cry til he threw up. As with anything else, all kids are different. You might also mention it to his pediatrician. I did with DS and he had some suggestions, unfortunately, none of them worked, LOL. But at least I felt like I was doing something. As I said before, he finally started sleeping through when he was about two. Until then, I thought I was going to lose my mind. :?
Update I haven't had a chance to post on here in a while so I thought I would give everyone an update. My baby girl still isn't sleeping through the night but she only gets up two or three times. It no longer takes me an hour to get her back to sleep at the most ten minutes. For us that is a victory. Thanks everyone!
You really need to let your ONE year old cry and get on a schedule. My daughter was doing the not sleeping through the night about the same time as your child. I remember reading this discussion & taking some of the info. I even bought the book, The no cry sleep solution. What a bunch of crap! It only made my child worse. After talking to a nurse at a pediatric hosipital, I suck it up & let her CRY IT OUT! She has slept through the night for MONTHS now. Really... talk to your pediatrition & see if they have any suggestions for you. The cry it out stinks for a couple of nights...only for about 20-30 minutes, but it helps the baby set their "clocks" and learn to sleep through the night. I didn't do this until she was around 9 months, but she's been sleeping through the night ever since. I just hate for you not to be sleeping through the night when the solution is not that bad. Just trying to help.
this stage is only the beginning of your child pushing boundaries. No child has ever gotten hurt from crying themselves to sleep. I promise you two things, 1)your child will be fine and will eventually fall asleep and 2) your child will also learn that absolutely nothing happened to them by crying themselves to sleep. I have twins, and it killed me to listen to two of them crying themselves beet red and splotchy, but they only did it maybe 2 nights, and it was done. You'll be fine. Good Luck to you.
