My little boy that's almost 2 never sleeps . Since we moved from our house to another home about a month an a half ago he just doesn't sleep ...Period ! He takes maybe an hours nap a day , At night , Holy freaking cow this child will wake up every 30 Min's on the dot screaming and no matter what i do to calm him it doesn't work . My lack of sleep is killing me , I cant not function anymore . I work from home and do all the motherly duties we all have as a wife and mother of 3 other children who thank god sleep through the night . I know that its not just the move and change , its got to be something else . I have taking him to the doctors and they said oh its just him changing , or oh don't worry hes just trying to see what he can get away with ....BS ! I feel so bad that i don't know whats wrong with my child . Is anyone else going through this ???? Please tell me i'm not the only one ! I never had these problems with the other children . And what gets me the most is he has never really sleep to good but now its worse , almost unbearable for me but he is the same ...haha If you ever wanted to see what someone looks like walking around dead , come see me ! If anyone has some solutions , advice , anything right now would be a great time to offer it and i would love to hear about it ! :allears: Thanks My4kiddies
This might sound crazy, but where is his room located? One of mine wouldn't sleep in his room, always wanted to sleep with one of his brothers (this was before we put them all together, this is what led to that, actually). Come to find out, his room was facing the driveway, it actually was at the end of the driveway. He would have nightmares of people driving up into the driveway and coming into the window and kidnapping him. He couldn't get to sleep at night, because he'd hear cars drive by, or people in the 'hood coming and going, doors closing, etc. And in the middle of the night, he'd hear car doors, etc, think people were coming to get him. Your son is a lot younger, so don't know if he can think of these types of things yet or not, but just a suggestion. He might be able to hear things outside his room, or see shadows, or something in his new room that he didn't see or hear before? We ended up moving our son in with his brother in the rear of the house, and he slept much better after that!
Yeah he is much younger , I don't think he thinks of those things yet ..Thank goodness . Sorry that your little one went through that but glad hes sleeping better now ! My lil one sleeps in the same room with me and the hubby , all of my kids have slept with us in their crib . So i don't know , I have put him in our bed but you know i don't want him to get attached to sleeping with us and not only that he really doesn't sleep any better between us . Theres nothing he could be scared of that i can think of ...
Have you been able to get him to tell you why he is screaming? I realize you said he can't be calmed when he wakes (been there too), but have you asked him about it during the day when he IS calm? Does he wake screaming from his nap during the day? If not, I'd agree that it may be related to a fear of something. Do you let him come in and sleep with you and if so, does this allow him to sleep better? My 6yo just recently stopped wandering in to our room almost every night and climbing in the bed with me and DH. Some people hate that but it never really bothered us. Well, except for his knees in DH's back. I was smart and kept a pillow between me and DS. :twisted: Sure hope you can figure it out and get some sleep soon. That's really tough on you!
He doesn't talk yet , hes almost 2 . Yes i ask him but you know he doesn't say much back yet , And he's in a crib same one from birth so he cant come to bed with us on his own . He's trying to escape but he hasn't yet . And if he's afraid of something i cant think of what it could be ..I have racked my Brain for answers , believe me .
I can totally relate to you. I have a 3 year old who I swear would be the most perfect angel if only he would sleep through the night!! Some nights he gets ups two or three times and it just can really wear on your psyche. Being a mom can bring so much stress in other areas that to not get a good night's sleep every night is not a good thing for your health. I'm almost to the point of asking the doctor what they recommend. I've found that I can get him to bed easier with a routine but it still doesn't help him getting up during the night. :banghead:
Some of mine had night terrors. Not just nightmares, but night terrors. They eventually outgrew them though. I know exactly what you mean about waking up screaming. However, if he is allowing you to comfort him and settling down when you take him out, I highly doubt it would be night terrors. Just thinking out loud. Change of environment will do all sorts of things to kids as well. If your gut is telling you something is wrong though, go w/ your gut ALWAYS!!! Period. Don't listen to a doc if you don't feel that is the problem. I have gone through the ringer w/ docs saying "oh, that's normal for a kid that age, or oh, you're just an over-concerned parent." Stick w/ your gut and figure out what is wrong w/ your son if you truly feel it is something just more than change of environment. I wish you all the best. He's a bit too young for melatonin so that won't help. Benedryl, though I know that is NOT it's intended use, does help. I have used it for this use before. I know, I know...bad mom. But sometimes, everyone just needs sleep to live and function. If you've done the environmental stuff...lights, music, air, change of room, etc. and nothing has reduced screaming, you'll need to dwelve further into the problem. I know how you feel. I've been there done that w/ a few of my non-sleepers. It is beyond rough and trust me, you would not have wanted to see what I looked like!--LOL. It was awful. Urghh. So sorry you and your son are going through this. I do hope it gets better soon. Stephanie--mom to 7
Can you explain in detail more what happens when he wakes up? Is it every single night? Does he cry, scream, talk (if he's talking yet) is he aware of his surroundings, sleepwalk, anything else? You said it's every 30 minutes, is that literal? Or is it just every single night, a few times?
Have you tried white noise - a fan or something? Maybe he's a very light sleeper and hears small things that bother him? Or as another person suggested, does the air vent blow towards his crib? You said he sleeps in your room, have you tried putting him a different room?
First off Abdulina your not a bad mother , now where do i find the benadryl ...lol When he wakes up he is screaming and i take him out and try and calm him with holding him and whispering to him . Doesn't work , He just cries and whines and eventually falls back to sleep in our bed . He doesn't talk yet , wished he did . Yes every 30 Min's ! And yes that's literally ! He doesn't always open his eyes when he wakes up in the middle of the night . Yes its every night , ever single night . We just bought one of those music things you put on the crib with the lights and sounds , we just got it last night . Didn't seem to work either . I know those are for lil baby's but i will try anything ! Other then not sleeping well my lil ones the most handsome and smart , always laughing and playing lil boy i have ever seen . I need sleep and he needs to not be crying ..I don't feel like its anything mentally wrong or even physically wrong but i guess i cant be to sure yet until i talk with the doctor again , whom i trust with all my lil ones . Hope that helps to better understand .
Yes i have tried the fan and also have made sure the air vent isn't on him or facing his crib , its not to hot or cold . I have also changed rooms , Believe it or not we have changed our room with my sons rooms ...still the same
here's another recent thread from another mother dealing with similar problems - maybe you two can supprt ea other... :lol: http://www.4042.com/4042forums/showthread.php?t=20203&highlight=sleep
You are not a bad mom! Actually DS's first pediatrician prescribed us an anithistamine that was supposed to make him sleep, to try to "train" him to sleep. It didn't work, but worth a shot! Good luck to those of you with sleep issues. Been there, bought the T-shirt. We survived, but as I've said before, it's a lot of the reason we only have one child. I don't think I could do it again. :?
Girl, I am right there with you! I could not do this again. We're happy with little man and the two dogs.
The reason I was asking is because of what Stephanie said. My middle one has night terrors. He didn't have them every night, but probably every week, and it was horrible. He would wake up screaming, it was horrible, and they say the worst thing you can do is try to soothe them. Unfortunately, you might have to change your sleeping arrangements, you won't be able to share a room with him. I'm in the middle of something right now, but if you want to PM me, we can talk more later about it. I'll give you more details about what I went through, I learned a lot about it. :?
I am a zombie. I so know how you feel. I have a 3 year old that did not sleep until recently. As an infant he had acid reflux and chronic ear infections. We got tubes and the sleep got a bit better. Now I have an infant that has chronic ear infections and acid reflux too. I can control the acid reflux with Zantac, but as we all know ear infections take on their own identity. We are going in a few weeks to discuss tubes with the wee one. Sleep, oh how I loved to sleep, but it does not happen anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PM me if you want, but I have never been one that felt I should offer sleeping advice.
My4kiddies - I just sent you a PM with tons of info! Let me know if you have any more questions, I was afraid I'd max out the limit of words allowed, so I crammed in as much as I could!
I think routine is key for all kids......do you have one? this happened to a one of my friends, she researched like crazy on the net and book stores. she tried many different things til she found the right one for her little one.....they are all so different and moody afterall. :mrgreen: a built in switch would be nice sometimes.
