1st Time posting, but need to vent

Would someone please tell me where a single father of two boys goes to find a decent women. I see so many women posting all over the net about wanting a decent man.

Let's see:
I have my own business
Do not use drugs
Drink socially (1 or 2 and I stop)
Am down to earth
Decent looks

Everyone always says the same things. Long walks on the beach, cuddling up and watching a movie, yada, yada, yada. That's what we all want right.

If you haven't figured it out yet, I'm a little discouraged in the whole dating scene. My ex was an alcohlic/drug addict and I had to get my boys out of that situation.

Heres what I am looking for:
Someone who is comfortable in jeans, but also knows how to dress like a lady.
Stable career
Wants to be pampered and reciprocate.

I am very old school in thoughts of relationships. This does not mean that the women does all the work around the house. I do a lot of it. I do like a neat home. You never know who is going to stop in.

Anyways, looks like there is a lot to process for a first post, eh. Ya'll help a decent guy out and let me know if you know of someone who is single and would like to meet just a good all around average guy.

 

Ok, here's my two cents though keep in mind I've been out of the dating pool for 20 years...

You didn't say your age or your sons but have you tried joining the PTA or Scouts? My older son's scout troop and PTA had several single moms who met your criteria (unless you prefer a lady with no children).

 

Do your kids go to Polenta? I hear the teachers there are friendly... :lol:

Seriously, now. I have a friend who met his wife on Match.com. have you tried online venues (beside the 4042 message board)? What's that other one, eharmony.com.

 

I met a really great guy at a kareoke bar, tho neither one of us drink much, and neither one of us sing AT ALL ...... *Grin*

 

I would have to say, center meeting someone around something that does involve you children, as someone else mentioned PTA, scouts, sports, because Moms are usually present. Alot more of them are single than what you might think. Just a thought. Good luck.

 

Thanks to all that replied.

 

A lot of churches have "divorce care" groups and "singles" Sunday school classes. Now I'm not suggesting using church as a pick-up joint, but you might want to get involved in a church's divorce ministry... for the ministry first, of course, and with hopes of finding the future Mrs. Right as well. :wink:

 

"I saw another topic for Maggo's Sports Bar. She is the head bartender in there."

Your wife is the head bartender at Maggo's?

 

Was my wife!!!!!

 

I did edit, because it was not in good taste.

That being said. It's only defamation if it is not true.

 

I agree! As my ex associated herself as my ex on this forum infuriated me. When I was being general in my posting's she was being specific. It is best to leave the association out of public forums.

PS If you find a good one, see if she has a sister or an equal friend.

 

Yeah, I had NO idea until she mentioned it last week.

Now, I'm trying to decide whose side to take. (kidding!!)

 

Good luck Banone1967,

I am a Mr. Mom also and new to the area. :? I haven't had any luck either but haven't tried much since i am enjoying my kids without all the problems that came along with a bad marriage. I don't really feel like i need to change things right now.

I agree with those who recommended going with the kids to their activities and meeting other people there. But it's also good to do things you like to do, so you can meet people that you have things in common with. I keep telling myself that i don't have time, what with all the work a single parent has to do, but if i spent less time on the computer, i guess i would have a lot more time to meet people. Duh.

Happy hunting,
Snuff

P.S. let me know if you find anything that works.

 

Jeez, where were all you guys when I was single?! LOL

 

probably the same place they are now. in hiding. lol

 

I was probably tip-toeing on egg shells around my ex, trying not to set off the (well, I won't go there) and trying to keep my kids away from it as much as possible. Did that for almost 12 years. Seems like more.

Snuff

 

Sometimes when your not looking so hard for someone you'll find that person. My husband and I were not looking to get into any realtionship at the time we met, he just happened upon my place of buisness and well the rest is history.

 

I think that's right, at least for me, anyway. Perhaps it has something to do with it being easier to be yourself when you're not trying too hard to impress anyone. People are usually more attractive when they are being themselves, I think.

 

hmmmm....no sides to take really. We are two people with different views in life. We didn't work, and we stayed together too many years too long.

I will give Robo321 this...he provides well for our children. He is a good father. I won't say anything negative...

Now that being said...maybe Banone1997 and Robo321 can have a night out on the town. Thanksgiving weekend would be good for Robo321 as our son is going to be here visiting me.

I am being nice here and will be.

 

hey lets start a singles night out. me single too :cry: