Most things start in CA and work themselves east. http://www.wral.com/news/national_world/national/story/1173524/
Personally I believe that you should spank your child. My dad use to tell me that it hurt him more than it hurt me. Now that I have kids of my own I realized he lied. I enjoy spanking the kids j/k. Really, I do it but not that much and only after fair warning.
I got my share of spankings when I was growing up and I turned out ok, well at least I think so. I also have a heck of a lot more respect for my parents then kids today do. Kids are not afraid of the consequences of their actions any more.
I beleive a lot of it depends on the age of the child. Would I pop the tail of a baby or a toddler? Hell no. Would I pop my 9 year old for running out into the parking lot at Food Lion? YES. There is a time that every kid will need a pop on the butt in thier life. I have seen some parents slap the poop out of thier kids for doing nothing! I am the type of person, I am not afraid to open my mouth to them, when I see them doing that in public places like restaurants. Just my humble opinion.
I do NOT hit my children in any way. I think there are things that can be taken away and grounding them is way more effective. You just have to stick to your guns! It does work. Hitting them just makes me feel better.
spanking my kids did not make me feel better, if anything it made me feel worse but there are times that spanking is the only thing that will get their attention. mine didn't get spanked often but they did get it and they are turning out just fine.
Really, I can't think of too many things that have, except for fleeing taxpayers. 8) Actually I doubt this soon to be proposed legislation will make it.
Surely this woman doesnt have kids. She has NO clue what she's talking about. Little Sista and I were spanked and we turned out just fine!
With all due respect, it is in my opinion when spanking a child makes the parent feel better, its best if that particular parent not spank. I've been spanked (and switched) and as a parent, I have spanked (although I have not introduced a switch) and I can speak for many parents who believe in the benefits of spanking that I have never, ever felt good AT ALL about spanking. I am a firm believer in using alternative means of punishment FIRST for almost all disciplinary action. However, sometimes spanking does not work and furthermore there is a time when I believe that spanking must be resorted to, primarily when a child shows blatant disrespect for parental authority. That isn't to say that a child should not be given the opportunity to be expressive, but if a child does not respect parental authority, he or she will be defiant to the responsibilities of adulthood. Spanking should be a controlled form of discipline and never done in anger. If a parent is out of control during the punishment, then I think that parent should back off and cool off. Spanking should be always looked upon as discipline and never a way to vent frustration or anger.
Why would you hit something you love so much? In all due respect. I just can't do it. I have found other ways that seem to open my kids eyes. Take the car for a couple of days, Take away t.v., computers, games, friends, phone, spending evenings in their room etc.... It does work. I know some of us were spanked, and turned out just fine. I personally wasn't spanked. Does no one else not believe in spanking? I do not think they should make it a law because I believe "to each their own". If spanking works for you and you do it, go for it, I guess. That's what makes the world go around.
Grew up with a mom who spanked and a grandmother who switched us. None of us ended up as delinquents. Little One knows what a spanking is for. It's rare nowadays, but gets her attention. We are also c-o-n-s-i-s-t-e-n-t, which is extremely important. Didn't always used to be and I can go soft quicker than her Daddy, but we work at it. She understands what responsibility, respect, discipline, and privilege mean. She knows about consequences too. Bottom line? Spare the rod... Just MHO.
My 2 cents... a swat on the behind can be a great attention-getter (situations like: running off in a parking lot, reaching for a hot pot, even mouthing-off) (I'm one of those grown-ups who does NOT want to be a buddy, and as "yo-mama", I don't have to earn your respect, you owe it to me, we can be friends when you are a grown-up). I'm not a fan of belts, paddles, etc, because you can hit too hard with that (a little sting, though, gets the point across). Now, about the 'spare the rod' reference...Proverbs 13:24 :He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. (NKJV) or 'He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him'. (NIV)... the shepherds used rods to GUIDE sheep, not beat them...think about Psalm 23 ..."thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me"... if the rod were used for punishment, it wouldn't be a comfort. Also, discipline is rooted in a Latin word which means 'to teach'...SO: a better understanding is 'if you don't guide your child then you hate him, but if you love your child you will put some effort into teaching him' (or her). ..and, as a preschool teacher, I'm begging you: please please teach your children...teach them to respect adults, teach them to treat other people decently, teach them that the world is NOT going to revolve around them(...I see so many kids who are not going to be able to handle adulthood because they think someone owes them instant gratification...) Hug them often, love them unconditionally and tell them when they do something that makes you proud...
Because I dare anyone to tell me how to raise my child to be a respectable adult. And in raising MY child, spanking will be involved. Jester & Vitameatavegemin My sentiments exactly!
