Comparative Spousal Violence Data From Three National Studies Definitions Of Spousal Violence MINOR VIOLENT ACTS: 1. Threw something 2. Pushed/Grabbed/Shoved 3. Slapped or spanked SEVERE VIOLENT ACTS: 1. Kicked/bit/hit with fist 2. Hit, tried to hit with something 3. Beat up 4. Threatened with gun or knife 5. Used gun or knife Spousal Assaults Expressed As Rate Per 1000 Couples Minor Assaults: Year Assault by Assault by husband wife 1975 98 98 1985 82 75 1992 92 94 Severe Assaults: 1975 38 47 1985 30 43 1992 19 44 Wives Report They Have been severely assaulted by husband 22 per 1000 severely assaulted husband 59 per 1000 Husbands Report They Have been severely assaulted by wives 32 per 1000 severely assaulted wives 18 per 1000 Husbands & Wives Both Report wife has been assaulted 20 per 1000 husband has been assaulted 44 per 1000 Violence against children by women is another issue where the public attitude is very different than the facts revealed by formal studies. * Women commit most child abuse in intact biological families. When the man is removed from the family the children are at greater risk. * Mother-only households are more dangerous to children than father- only households. * Children are 3 times more likely to be fatally abused in Mother-only Households than in Father-only Households, and many times more likely in households where the mother cohabits with a man other than the biological father. * Children raised in Single-mother Households are 8 times more likely to become killers than children raised with their biological father. Other studies reveal more about female violence against children: * Women hit their male children more frequently and more severely than they hit their female children. * Women commit 55% of child murders and 64% of their victims are male children. * Eighty two percent of the general population had their first experience of violence at the hands of women, usually their mother. Our culture learns to be violent from our mothers, not our fathers. Yet, 3.1 million reports of child abuse are filed against men each year, most of which are false accusations used as leverage in a divorce or custody case. women will never change, guys we have to get away from them, once they start they will never stop. Don't be in a relationship with them there is no way for them to change...Not only are they more abusive, they will turn around and blame it all on us!!!
Dude, I don't know you, but from your posts, you apparently are going through some serious personal turmoil. I hope things work out for you. You have my sympathies, but please don't let things build up inside you to the point of erupting into something destructive to you or others. I have seen too many of my male friends (and a couple of family members) put through the wringer and do something stupid. Tough I know, but don't end up being on the wrong end of your emotions. :grouphug:
Im ok The only thing I can do is warn others at this point. Here are some resources if anyone is going through a custody situation with false accusations. http://www.fathers4kids.com/html/DomesticViolence.htm http://www.mediaradar.org/press_release_20070129.php http://www.acfc.org/site/PageServer
33dad - i got the humor in what you were saying. Cute. get away while you can... But there are some cold facts in there. not all women were cut out to be mothers and todays, "I gotta have a kid" or "gotta keep my accident and make good" attitude is a contributing factor. Leaving the kids on a hospital door step is not a bad idea if the child will be in a home where it is not wanted. No mom who loves their child, Kills it or abuses the heck out if it. As far as woman abusing men -yes, it happens but it is usually self defense, not always though. All my ex-hubby knew was yell, scream, throw something, and then hit. It happened... it's over. If you are having a problem with abuse, get out...Just like I did, deal with it and move on.
32 Nation Study Interesting Reading....32 Nation Study on DV... http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/ID41E2.pdf Abstract The study investigated the widely held belief that violence against partners in marital, cohabiting, and dating relationships is almost entirely perpetrated by men, and that when women assault their partners, it has a different etiology than assaults by men. The empirical data on these issues were provided by 13,601 university students who participated in the International Dating Violence Study in 32 nations. The results in the first part of this paper show that almost a third of the female as well as male students physically assaulted a dating partner in the 12 month study period, and that the most frequent pattern was mutuality in violence, i.e. both were violent, followed by “female-only” violence. Violence by only the male partner was the least frequent pattern according to both male and female participants. The second part of the paper focuses on whether there is gender symmetry in a crucial aspect of the etiology of partner violence -- dominance by one partner, The results show that dominance by either the male or the female partner is associated with an increased probability of violence. These results, in combination with results from many other studies, call into question the assumption that partner violence is primarily a male crime and that, when women are violent, it is self-defense. Because these assumption are crucial elements in almost all partner violence prevention and treatment programs, a fundamental revision is needed to bring these programs into alignment with the empirical data. Prevention and treatment of partner violence could become more effective if the programs recognize that most partner violence is mutual and act on the high rate of perpetration by women and the similar etiology of partner violence by men and women.
