a book on financial control for a gift? If you were in a financial mess and were quite verbal about it, would it bother you to get such a gift?
Let's see ... token giften that you probably will never use OR a book that can totally impact your life. Sounds like you have someone who loves you enough to give you something you NEED. You'll appreciate that person when you scream ... "I'M DEBT FREEEEEEEEE"
I have several friends/ relatives who really need Dave's help. Dave totally changed the way we deal with money. I want to give this book for Christmas this year to many of them. I can just see their faces though! On the other hand, our "lending money" days are over and this will seal the deal.
LT- If that's the case, then this is what I would do. I would buy the book, but write an inscription in it that says something along the lines of, "This book totally changed our lives, blah blah.......hope it does the same for you....blah blah.....wish only the best.....because we love you....blah blah" You get the picture? Make it look like you are giving it to them not because they need it, but because you did.
Oh so you are giving this book not receiving it. Heck nah it wouldn't bother me... if peps are saying gee I am always broke and you wanna help them out. Pfff give a way! If by chance they dont' like it... again life it too short to worry if someone LOVES your gift or not! It's the thought that counts!! :wink: Very good idea Jen!
Heck if it could help then be thankfull for any help you can get from it. I wish someone would give me a book like that to help me get abck on my financial feet
Excellent book to give as a gift and I agree with Jen's inscription idea. If they choose to read and follow his advice, they will be forever thankful. If not, they will have a nice paperweight!
Yes I could of used the book but sense have worked out my money issues. Taking money management class and all. Thank goodness we all leave our mistakes in the past. That we can grow from our mistakes...we all learn. I would of taken a book like this as a gift and still would. I would not be insulted. I simply never learned to manage my money. I had my parents take care of me than married and never learned. I had no concept. I have worked hard to overcome this and I have worked with my daughter for her to learn the value of money. So give the book you will help someone. If they take it as an insult they are not ready to face the truth about themselves, however they have vocalized their problems so to me it seems they are asking for help.
I don't know.....would I be offended if somebody gave me a dieting book?....probably. If you have to ask if the person would be offended, I would err on the safe side and not do it. If you know this person well enough, then I don't think you would have had to ask that question. On the other hand, it is a nice gesture and JenniferS had a great idea on how best to position the gift.
I have a little personal rule on that one... If the book was given due to circumstances that have arisen where the gift would be useful, no problem. For example, a book given on how to manage money given to a friend when they find themselves in a bad money situation due to poor financial management. That's an acceptable gift. If, however...the book was given as a gift on an occastion when a gift is warranted...such as a birthday or Christmas, it's rude as all get out. :lol:
