Thanks, kell! It's a huge relief to at least know he's ok...and we don't even know him or his family. I just know if my little one left, I would go crazy with worry. Thank for the update. I'll pass the word along. Frogger
For Daniel Daniel - Message for you on my blog on MySpace. myspace.com/biblebkwm Let someone know if you can't get to it!!
Awww I am sorry Thought about you guys thru out the day and had my fingers crossed that he would call his father.
he may have called but this is far from over..... so keep praying that this boy gets his act together and realizes 1. running solves nothing 2. your friends don't always know whats best 3. you parents love you no matter what - even when you hurt them and even when they are yelling at you. 4 money is not endless 5.at 16 you really don't have as much of a clue to life as you think 6. The easy way out isn't always the best 7. people will use you to their advantage if you allow them to 8. Woman have been using nookie to control men for centuries - you are just another pawn in the game. You really want to grow up? think with the one on your shoulders... And pray for strength, patience and endurance for mom.
Some Sick Game... (message for Daniel) Daniel - I don't know how much you know about what's going on, but I got a letter in the mail Saturday because "someone" filed a complaint with the Division of Juvenile Justice regarding your status as a runaway. There's only one or two people I can think of who would have filed a complaint like that... and I can only imagine the reasoning behind it. My guess is that either you or 'they' think that if the state finds that I can't control my child, it might help you in your quest to become emancipated (which I know was not an idea you came up with on your own!). I've read the statutes and spoken to the Juvenile Justice rep and here's what the outcome of this 'complaint' may be... Potential Outcome: If it is determined that there is cause to believe that I am "unfit" as a mother and unable to control my children... that would mean I'm also unfit to be Steven's mother, and he'll be put in foster care pending an investigation which could take months. STEVEN IN FOSTER CARE!! Is this acceptable to you, Daniel? Your little brother in foster care? I think there is little chance of this happening... there's no way anyone could declare me unfit... but depending on the 'complaint' that was filed, they could remove Steven from our home pending an investigation. Considering the flat out lies that were told in the 'complaint' attached to the no-contact order filed last month, there's no telling what the county was told and what they think they need to investigate! Who are these people that they're willing to play with people's lives this way?! Probable Outcome: You will be found to be an 'undicsiplined juvenile' and a warrant will be placed for your arrest. When you come home, you'll have to go to court and may end up on probation or the court will order you to go to counseling and order that you not run away again or face probation or juvenile detention. Maybe in the long run, this will be a good thing. But is this the way you want things to go? Can't we settle this as a family and not in court?! Either way, whoever filed this 'complaint' is not doing you or your family any good deed. Are these the people you want to live with? Have they turned you so against your family that you don't care what happens to us... to Steven... to your criminal record? Daniel, PLEASE COME HOME and let's stop all this non-sense. This is rediculous! It's not a game. This is our family and our lives that are being toyed with here. Who ARE these people and what are you being told that makes you think that any of this is ok? PLEASE AT LEAST CALL ME and let's talk through this. We need to talk... really talk... about what we can do to make this better, to make you feel comfortable comging home... to work past all of the he said / she said crap and really talk about coming together as a family again. You're not responsible for any of this, Daniel. Your life and your family's lives are being used like pawns in some sick game. Tell me... who's the winner in any of this? I love you so much, honey. This is killing me! There's so much that you don't know and that you won't believe until you see it for yourself with your own eyes. But how can that happen if you stay sequestered where only the people manipulating the situation are able to talk to you? I LOVE YOU, DANIEL!! Please call me! Mom
Our thoughts are with all of you. Just when we think our problems are consuming we read your Post and are humbled. Daniel...you probably don't know me but I can assure you that I have been through alot in my life time. If you would like a neutral place to meet one or both parents I would be glad to help you find one. I know you want the best for your brother! What is happening right now is really bad and, you, Daniel are the only one that can stop this. Sherry P.S. Daniel, I ran away from home too when I was a teen. My family welcomed me back with open arms and we were able to work things out. My dad was very, very strict so if I could go back you can too. When you are my age you will cherish your family so very much.
I continue to pray that things will be worked out here. Daniel ~ another message from someone you don't know. I do not know what has happened or anything like that, but I do feel that you and your family need to sit down and talk about things. Having gone through having a 16 year old son, and about to have a 16 year old daughter, I can tell you, hon, that you are not a man right now. I know you may think that you have all the answers, but you don't. Family is so important. Yes, there are fights and misunderstandings in all families and there are times when we all want to run away, but that does not solve anything. To be honest, it only makes things worse and things never get worked out. Yes, even us adults want to run away at times. You may be angry and hurt over something that happened at home, but I can guarantee you that your family has experienced those same feelings, but it seems to me, they are wanting to put those feelings behind them and concentrate on the future and getting the family back together. I read that you have a brother....how do you think he feels not having his big brother around? I am sure he misses you and is very sad that you are not there. What about you? How do you feel about being away from him? Daniel ~ Parents are not perfect. We make a lot of mistakes and sometimes, just like kids, we say things in anger that we do not mean. Being an adult and being a parent is not easy. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we just cannot seem to do anything right by our kids. We are too strict, we are too nosey, we don't "give them their space", etc, etc, etc. You know, all we want is the best for our children. We want them to be all that they can be and so rules are laid down and yes, to you all, we may seem unfair. But you know what, if we didn't disipline you kids, or give you rules, or make you do your home work, or do your chores, or want to know who you are with, what you are doing and what time you are going to be home and even sometimes tell you NO, that wouldn't be showing you that we loved you and cared about you. I have heard all kinds of things from my kids about being unfair and being mean or trying to run their lives....well, I am the parent, I am the adult and my job is to guide them, teach them right from wrong, install values and morals, not let them have everything they want, teach them to abide by rules and to let them know that basically life is not a bed of roses. It has it's ups and downs. I do not know what happened to cause you to run away and decide you were "man" enough to be on your own, but what you are doing now is not proving you to be a man. A real man would own up to his part in the problems at hand, take responsibility and not try to pass the blame off on everyone else. A man would not run away from his problems, but face them head on, unless he was a total coward. A man would not let himself be influenced by those around him, but make his own choices as to what he wants to do. Daniel ~ at 16 your are not a man and you have a lot of growing to do and a lot to learn. I do not know if you finished out the school year, but education is very important. Another thing to look at is what is going to happen to those people that "claim" to be your friends and that are "helping" you at this time? Do they not realize that they could be in a lot of trouble! I am not talking about a little bit, but a lot!!! If they were truely your friends, they would encourage you to try to work things out with your family. From what I am reading, you are missed so very much. I can understand this. I miss my son with all my heart and soul. My son did not run away, but enlisted into the Air Force pretty much right out of High School. Oh, he and I use to have some major fights! I mean the door slamming, saying things we didn't mean, screaming, throwing things, the whole nine yards, but we were able to work things out. Now he calls me almost every night and some days he calls more than once. Daniel, talk to your mom. If nothing else, take baby steps. Maybe get have your mom set up some family counseling for you all. Daniel, hon, you need to go home. Clear the air and see where things go from there. Look deep in your heart and do what you know is right. Daniel, we are all praying for you and your family. Although we do not know you, we still care. Do the right things and prove that you are the man you believe that you are. ForeverFaithful
I had to start completely over with my post because it was bad, VERY bad and god forbid I hurt little Daniels feelings. TJ, since he's obviously man enough now to be on his own or hang with his friends let him go! He's grown enough to make up his mind and wants to be free. I know if you provided a roof over my head to sleep under, 3 hot meals a day, water, electric, heat, AC FREE groceries and lots of love - I'd probably run away 2. Makes sense to me. :? Your husband and Daniel's siblings probably need you now more than ever. Give them lots of hugs, kisses and let them know how much you love them every single day. Stay stong. HG & Family
DANIEL- This IS from someone you know and someone who knows whats going on. You dont get it right now because for some reason you have chosen to listen to the WRONG people, but you are so very loved and you know our family. You know that we are welcoming and FORGIVING!! People in this family have done things and been forgiven for them and the same will be done to you if you would just come home. You may think that you havent done anything to be forgiven for but we all have, including you. I cant stop thinking about you and remembering the Daniel you are. The Daniel you are trying to be is not the real you. THOSE people have made you this way. The Daniel I know, loves his family (mistakes and all), he loves his cousins (which miss you more than you know), he jokes around, he gives the best hugs no matter what mood he's in, he loves music, he is so thoughtful, and most of all he LOVE HIS LORD!!! YOu still havent come to see our new house. WE are still waiting. You are welcome anytime. If you want you can have the guest bedroom. This family can give you so much more than the PEOPLE you are with now. I am not going to bad mouth the PEOPLE you are with casue I dont know for sure who they are and god forbid I hurt anyones feelings.:? But whoever you are, you will get whats coming to you! We love you so much Daniel!! Please call your mom, dad, and bros miss you more than life itself. You know better than this. :cry: LOVE YOU BUNCHES "favorite cousin" Kelli
LMAO - he is still causing heartache and is in the dark about some stuff. Now he is just being stubborn - which isn't helping his case of being a grown man
seriously though, he didnt want to hear what his own Mom had to say, so why would he not be MORTIFIED reading all of us giving him unsolicited advice. It's gotten way out of control on all 265 threads we got going.....everyone wants him safe and at home, but this is outta control. IMO.
I'm still sayin' I wonder how he will feel when he is a father and his KID does this!!!!!! you know what they say...you are your father's son..... (or somethin' like that..)
Daniel has called home!!!!!!! So, I think enough is enough. HG, I have had to refrain from saying to much as well. I personally think this whole thing has gone to far. Daniel is not a missing teen. He's a rebellous one! The world is full of them. If he wanted to come home I'm sure he could. It's time to put an end to this. Before anybody bashes me I know my opinion does not matter to most! I know I don't have to read this thread. Seems like our time would be better spent helping teens that realize we as adults are wiser than they. Daniel has to learn the hard way. I keep having a mental picture of Daniel laughing at all the attention he's getting! There!! I've said it!!!!!! PAT
:iagree: yep... post your novels to Daniel on Myspace or Facebook..obviously if he can get here, he can get there.
