I need someone desperately to refer me to an attorney in this area that deals with family law. My ex-husband and I share a son together that is nine. The list of things that his father is doing to him and how it is affecting him is almost too long to even go into. He is being bullied by his father that lives out of state in NY, which he sees a few times a year, the biggest chunk of it is in the summertime. My son has gotten to that awkward stage physically also, and his father actually calls him "fat" and bullies him to the point where we have had to inlist a child psychologist to help him cope with the anxieties and pressures that has stemmed from it. He is supposed to go back there for the summer, but I need to try and hustle this one because I just can't let him go and I need someone other than ME to attempt to deal with my ex-husband and his parenting skills. The biggest clincher is that his father left him in a hotel room alone for an undisclosed amout of time in Mexico while vacationing with his father's parents. He told my son he was going to the lobby to go ahead and try to go to sleep and he didn't come back until the wee hours of the morning. My son woke up and went looking for him on the beach. WWHAAAAATTT was he thinking??? The only "up side" I suppose to the whole thing is now that he is seeing a therapist the abandonment issue is in black and white. I also just found out that in the summertime when he is in NY his father lets him roam the halls of his apartment building without a parent! With all of this we are seeing him crawl into a shell to be less of the warm sweet child we all know and love in my home and with my family. He doesn't sleep well, and he is slipping in school grade wise. The therapist he is seeing has diagnosed him with depression and anxiety disorder. His response to me when I tried to reason with him was to phone the therapist and demanded to know what was going on with his son. He even bullied her! She was able to dissuade him from seeing her notes and her reason for doing so was because there are specific quotes in the notes that have come from my son and she questions whether he would bully my son more if he saw it verbatim. I need a lawyer that is very compassionate that can help me protect my son from his father's tactics. I've tried reasoning with him on the phone (the father), but it's not worth the run around and it doesn't stop him from bullying my son-it actually makes it worse. I totally feel this is setting the stage for a serious mental issue for my son in the coming years. I CANNOT sit back and let that happen. Someone has to stop him and it needs to be someone that he actually will listen to...and if that isn't enough I am more than willing to fight for my son's feelings. I'm at my wits end here. He's my first born and he's very special and I'm afraid if I don't protect him he'll grow to be bitter and not enjoy life! No child should have to go through this.
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This would have been enough information to request an attorney referral. I am amazed at the personal information posted on this discussion group.
WElcome to the real world. It is good sometimes when people go into detail, because if it also helps another person see a situation in a different light, and other people also find the courage to seek help, then the posting wasn't in vain.
thats what I was thinking, some people just need to get it out before they explode! Maybe she didnt have anyone she could really talk to and this was the place! I wish her luck!
Agree...Sometimes it just helps to know you aren't alone and that you aren't the only one with weirdness going on.
