Closer to your age group is good, but hangin out with women older and wiser and more mature is a good thing as well. :mrgreen:
OMG girl! The fact he has a whole lot more "issues" than just being jealous...end it, don't talk to him period. Think about your daughter, not only yourself. This guy is not husband or father material....at all!:evil:
Neither should be mad....and he really should not be so sensitive or teasing you over this because you both played and answered the question.... BUT lesson learned, not worth playing the "what if" game.... Never is! LOL :?
My dad has some locks already. They are dead bolts . He bought them not long ago for me and nver put them on , I just had the door knob lock and he didn't think it was safe. My pass word has never been given out to anyone but me My daughter dosen't have it.Shes not at a age where she can come in go without me. I don't think he'd break in. But they are being changed just in case I am leaving town this weekend.
http://www.abanet.org/domviol/statistics.html#recidivism Offender Recidivism According to a 2000 study which interviewed the former and current partners of male batterers referred to batterer programs by the court: * 41% of participants reported that the men committed a re-assault during the 30-month follow-up period. * Nearly 2/3 of the first time re-assaults occurred in the first 6 months. * About 20 percent of the men repeatedly re-assaulted their partners and account for most of the reported injuries. http://www.endabuse.org/resources/facts/ # On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner. http://www.findcounseling.com/journal/domestic-violence/domestic-violence-statistics.html "Nearly one in every three adult women experiences at least one physical assault by a partner during adulthood. Approximately four million American women experience a serious assault by an intimate partner during a 12-month period." http://home.cybergrrl.com/dv/stats.html Police were more likely to respond within 5 minutes if the offender was a stranger than if an offender was known to the female victim. (Ronet Bachman Ph.D., U.S. Department of Justice Bureau of Justice Statistics, "Violence Against Women: A National Crime Victimization Survey Report," January 1994, p. 9) http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/statistics.shtml Many, perhaps most, people believe that the victim will be safe once they separate from the batterer. They also believe that victims are free to leave abusers at any time. However, leaving does not usually put an end to the violence. Batterers may, in fact, escalate their violence to coerce a victim into reconciliation or to retaliate for the perceived rejection or abandonment. Those who believe they are entitled to relationship with their victim or that they "own" their partner, view the victim's departure as an ultimate betrayal which justifies retaliation. (Saudners & Browne, 1990; Dutton, 1988; Bernard el at, 1982) Relationship Quiz: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? Instructions: Enter the number of points next to each question depending on the severity of each item: Never: 0 points Rarely: 1 point Sometimes: 2 points Frequently: 3 points __ My partner teases me in a hurtful way in private or in public __ My partner calls me names such as "stupid" or "Enlightened person" __ My partner acts jealous of my friends, family, or co-workers __ My partner gets angry about clothes I wear or how I style my hair __ My partner checks up on me by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to __ My partner insists on knowing who I talk to on the phone __ My partner blames me for their problems or bad mood __ My partner gets angry easily, leaving me walking on eggshells __ My partner throws or destroys things when angry __ My partner hits walls, drives dangerously or does other things to scare me __ My partner drinks excessively or uses drugs __ My partner insists that I drink or use drugs whenever they do __ My partner accuses me of being interested in someone else __ My partner reads my mail, goes thru my personal space/items (ie. purse) __ My partner keeps me from getting a job or finds ways to cause problems at my job __ My partner keeps money from me, keeps me in debt, or has "money secrets" __ My partner sold my car, made me give up my license, or won't repair my car __ My partner has threatened to hurt me __ My partner has threatened to hurt my children __ My partner has actually hurt my children __ My partner has threatened to hurt my pets __ My partner has actually hurt my pets __ My partner has threatened to hurt my friends or family __ My partner has hurt a friend or family member __ My partner has threatened to commit suicide if I leave __ My partner has struck me with hands or feet - slapped, punched, kicked __ My partner has struck me with an object or threatened me with a weapon __ My partner has given me visible injuries - bruises, welts, cuts __ I have had to administer first aid to myself due to injuries from my partner __ My injuries have been serious enough to seek treatment - doctor, hospital, clinic, paramedic __ My partner forces me to have sex when I don't want to __ My partner forces me to have sex in ways that I don't want to __ My partner has been in trouble with the police __ My partner acts one way in front of others, and another way when we are alone __ My partner is secretive or lies about past relationships __ I feel isolated and alone and have no one I can really talk to __ I have lost friends because of my partner/partner's actions __ I no longer see some of my family because of my partner __ I have thought about calling the police because of an incident of violence __ I have actually called the police on one or more occasions __ I am afraid to call the police because of threats from my partner _____ TOTAL POINTS 0-17: Generally Non-abusive These are likely to be the sorts of strains that are not unusual in relationships. Do NOT, however, make the mistake of brushing off any incident of violence or threat of violence, no matter how isolated! 18-58: Moderately Abusive This is a home experiencing some violence at least once in a while. It may be that this is a relationship where violence is just beginning. In a new relationship there is good reason to expect it will eventually escalate into more serious forms and may occur more frequently. 59-95: Seriously Abusive Scores in this range indicate a seriously abusive relationship that can, under outside pressure, or with the sudden strain of a family emergency, move into the dangerously severe range. Serious injury is quite probable if it has not already occurred. Please consider getting help, even leaving. 96 and up: Dangerously Abusive If you scored in the top range, you need to consider even more seriously the option of leaving, at least temporarily, while you consider your next move. The violence will not take care of itself or miraculously disappear. Over time the chances are very good that your life and/or the lives of your children will be in danger.
My score is 0 thank god! I can't EVEN imagine being in a relationship like that. He could hit the ****ing road! :twisted:
You've hit the nail on the head. This is why he's angry, and I can understand why. He KNOWS his is just a fantasy. You picked "real" people and there's a chance you could hook up with them (in his mind). This was a no win game. Tell him, once more, that it was in fact just a what if game, and if he doesn't give it a rest, hit the highway.
My first husband was abusive. He threatened to kill himself. I loaded the gun and handed it to him. :evil:
keep reading the thread. he has a history of jealousy. he's in court ordered anger management classes. he's on parole. he tells her to disown her family. tells her to only talk to her mother once a week. follows her. questions her. and lots more. it's way more than just this little "game", this just seems to have brought the whole thing to a boiling point
OMG!! Mine too. When I told him to GET OUT, he left with the shotgun....I didn't even flinch. :shock:
Him? ...or me? Yeah, it could have ended bad. I got lucky. Some people learn too late not to screw with me (which may well be my own demise). :shock: I had an xboyfriend that was screwing around. We were "friends" when it ended. I set him up with someone that I knew had herpes. They dated a while...at least long enough for him to contract it. :twisted:
